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[Besswess88]

I hope this isn’t too outing.

I started playing a sport again a few years ago, joined a league and have been in several different teams, people come and go each season and teams disband and reform. Covid obviously fucked this up massively and for a long time we weren’t allowed to play and then when we were a lot of people left as they didn’t feel safe. Fair enough.

I was a sub for a bit and then was put into a new team as someone had left. This team started all together which is rare actually, and had joined for the social rather than the sport, so a lot of chat in the group chat about social stuff rather than the hobby (fine). I am mid 40s and the rest are mid 20s early 30s.

I went on a few of the social things but not a lot as busy or felt a bit old, and the social chatter tailed off and I figured they had a different WhatsApp group for that.

Mid season the captain says she was leaving and for a few weeks we were getting a team together on the day of the game and scrabbling around for subs when we didn’t have enough people.

A couple of others left as were moving away and were replaced by new people.

I offered to step in, in the interim just to organise things so it wasn’t such a last minute scrabble, I said, unless anyone else wanted to, no one spoke.

Then when I did start organising the team one of the players found fault with everything I did and said there should be a vote for captain, keeps banging on about being an “original” member of the team, but no one else put themselves forward as it’s a pain in the fucking arse. But there were just these awkward silences almost in the group chat, I asked her privately if she wanted to do it and she said no, and I asked the “natural self appointed leader” and she said no as moving away.

So it’s got to the point when whenever I post hardly anyone replies (even the three new players I have managed to get).

We need to pay for the full season by next Sunday and I have asked today who wants to continue next season and 1 person has replied.

So do I just leave and let them get on with it and join a other team.

Something I started for my own mental health is now damaging my mental health.

I'd join another team OP. Sounds like this 9ne is not fun anymore. Good luck x

I just don’t understand the weird dynamic. It wasn’t like I swanned in and took over 🙈🙈

To be fair at the minute many people don't know if they're coming or going with the threat of isolation or catching Omicron. So I guess that a team sport that used to be seen as a fun recreational activity requires a bit of consideration if you want to participate or not .
But anyways yes find another team, sounds stressful and they'll miss you when you're gone.

Leave them to it. Join a different team.

@rookiemere

To be fair at the minute many people don't know if they're coming or going with the threat of isolation or catching Omicron. So I guess that a team sport that used to be seen as a fun recreational activity requires a bit of consideration if you want to participate or not . But anyways yes find another team, sounds stressful and they'll miss you when you're gone.

That’s fine but no one is really that bothered about Covid and if they are just fucking voice it in the group chat rather than this tumble weed silence 🤷‍♀️

No one on the team is bothered sorry ..,

Join another team and leave them to it

It's a shame but it's going to be the end of the club. I attended a Church and it went the same way. New members and good organisers were put off, so the branch closed.

I would give a final 24 hours. Them just leave it and find another team. Original member sounds like a pain in the arse.

Just leave them to it.

Yeah look for a new team and leave them to it. Nowt as queer as folk and all that

Find a new team. They don't sound fun. Silence is a "no" BTW. Just say sorry to the few who replied but you will take the silence as a no and will be moving on to x team if anyone interested in continuing.

Left today - feel much better.

Thanks x

Well done. Onwards and upwards.