Prompted by another thread. I am estranged from all of my bio family. Contact with no one. No contact, cards, gifts for the kids. I spent Christmas with some of my husbands family. Roughly 20 people. We have 2 kids. Our youngest - 16 month projectile vomited (mostly at night) every night (6 nights). Covid neg. Likely cause owing to reflux/colds/lying relatively flat at night. My husband and I were knackered. No one offered any practical help only interacting in short bursts. My husbands mum and dad are not emotionally intelligent and conversations lingers around matters such as nearby roadworks etc. Our Christmas was particularly more stressful owing to a possible heart attack my husband had a few days before travelling (now being investigated because it's not been made clear why). No one asked anything too deep. I am naturally an inquisitive person and will ask about there life's but the questions are rarely reciprocated. I find this really hard. It was a very strange feeling to feel so lonely and 'unhelped' in a room full of people.
So, aibu - would you expect fanily to help in this circumstance, or do you go by the mantra 'your kids, your responsibility?'