To wonder if anyone has ever fallen in (unrequited) love?

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I have and it is horrible!

I fell for my gay friend. We spend a lot of time talking to each other and are close. He's gay. He's not even my type but there's something about him that I can't pinpoint. I have got mostly over myself and my feelings aren't as strong. At one point I ended up crying about my feelings for him, they were that strong. I've never told him how I feel and never will. There's little point in doing so.

Anyone else had the pain of unrequited love?

Just about everyone alive, surely?

We’ve all been there thank god mine are film star crushes.

@Butchyrestingface I hadn't til I met my friend. I didn't find him attractive at first. Definitely wasn't my type!

Yes, my best friend at uni, who I lived with for three years, and who had a long term girlfriend. It was so so painful, and took me a year to get over him after we left. I’m sorry you’re going through it now, i still remember vividly how horrible it feels ❤️

I feel for you, I had the same for the a friend. We were coworkers but would hang out outside of work as well. We had a bit of a moment after one staff party and that sealed the deal for me. We still continued to work together well since we worked in different key stages but I never told him how I really felt. I moved from one end of the country to the other a year later to be closer to family and he messaged me telling me how he felt - turns out it was the same as me! It was too late though, so I guess it was more of a "one that got away" but I thought it was unrequited the entire time we were around each other, and he thought it was the same on his end. 😣

@Butchyrestingface

Just about everyone alive, surely?

Not me, actually. I suppose I've been lucky. I have been the one who was pursued and didn't want it- that was pretty shitty too knowing you're responsible for someone's happiness that you care about but don't love. I was young and had no emotional intelligence so didn't handle it very well. . I'd like to find them and apologise.

I don’t think I know a single person who hasn’t fallen in love with someone and that other person not be interested

Oh god yeah more than once

Yes. I fell for someone hard, we slept together and I didn’t get over it fully for several years - even then he would still pop up in my dreams.

He not only didn’t return my feelings but turned out to be a horrible person who later punched another woman in the face for refusing his advances. I knew then that I could never really have known what he was really like and I must have been projecting my feelings on to him.

It's the worst! Hope you can move on soon.

He not only didn’t return my feelings but turned out to be a horrible person who later punched another woman in the face for refusing his advances. I knew then that I could never really have known what he was really like and I must have been projecting my feelings on to him.

Cripes. How lucky you were it was HIM rejecting you and not the other way round. What a vile, dangerous individual.

Several times, even leaving aside the normal schoolgirl crushes. The worst was when my best friend and I fell for the same guy at aged 16. She became his girlfriend (until we were 21) and I loved him from afar for the next eight years. Somehow I'm still good friends with both now but there will always be a bit more love on my side!

You keep posting about this. In the kindest way possible, you're obsessed and you need to find a new focus.

Yes. I met him through a friend who was friends with him and his lovely girlfriend many years ago. We all hung out together for ages. His girlfriend was lovely, now his wife and mother of his kids. We all still chat on Facebook. He is utterly beautiful inside and out it’s always been love for me but I have never breathed a word or (hopefully) let it show. This post is the first time I’ve admitted to anyone but myself.

Yes, I was 19 and he was 30 and probably closeted gay. We definitely had a connection. Very similar to you in that I wasn't attracted to him at all when I met him but as I got to know him there was something about him. I was heartbroken all the time! I met my husband the same year and quickly got over it! I still see him sometimes and have a bit of a soft spot but am 100% not in love with him now and cringe at the thought a little bit!

Many times. Google ‘limerence’ and let yourself off the hook.

Nope. I need to feel desire from the other person to desire them. Not sure if that’s a good thing or some kind of disorder I can fancy people’s bodies but not love them in any way unless there’s a two way relationship.