Presents

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My son is 18, as is his girlfriend. They have been together since they were 16, more than 2 years.
All my family gave her Christmas presents as other "kids" in family.
My son recieved none from her family. Same as 18 year birth Day present. He Got nothing.
He is quite hurt. I Can understand him. Parents are Polite but indifferent to him, we treat her as family.
But i cant say/do nothing, to make it better, can i? English is not my first language

Perhaps they only do presents for immediate family?
I bought my dds bf a token present this year, as they have now been together about a year, but the rest of the family didn't buy him one because we don't do gifts like that. So maybe they are similar? I couldn't get het up about it, they are only 18. if they had been together years and living together or married, that's very different to a teenage BF/GF.

To be honest my family didn't buy presents for DH for the first couple of years.

My family didn’t buy for my ex until we were engaged!

Thanks..

I understand why he is hurt but please don't retaliate by leaving his girlfriend out in future because it isn't her fault. I bet she loves spending time at your place of her family is quite buttoned up!

They’re only bf/gf and 18. I understand why her family isn’t getting anything for him tbh. That’s how it should be imo

True.. they are always here , always included. He is never invited to anything at her House.
I would not Dream of exclude her. As soon as it is safe we go on 2 week all inclusive somwhere hot, and we also pay for her.
I am just sad for my son.

My now-DH didn't get any presents until it was clear we were very serious. We've been together 10 years now, and he still only ever gets token gifts. But that's all I get from HIS parents as well.

By the Way it is not a money issue. They are not poor and it could just be a small thing. But they have been together more than 2 years..

I'm the DIL in this situation!! My DHs family have always included me, we've gone on holiday, they bought housewarming gifts etc etc and I've always done the same for them. They're a generous friendly family and I love them for it.

My family are very much the opposite! We barely buy for each other, not at all a close family oriented family, it would genuinely never occur to them to sort this sort of present and we're married! It's just the way they are.

Tbh it's not bothered my DH now (many years in) because he's realised it's how they are with everything / everyone and it's not at all personal. Hopefully you DS will have the same realisation!

"As soon as it is safe we go on 2 week all inclusive somewhere hot, and we also pay for her." . Wow. I would never do that. You do seem very keen on this girl, so be careful you don't end up extremely disappointed if they split up in a couple of months/years.

Oh Mimosa i know 😂 but they are always here so it is hard not to!!
I like her, she is good for my son and even if they split up later on, we enjoy this time 😊