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Guests with symptoms

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Fairydustdjdj · 30/12/2021 09:16

Hi
First time posting, go easy on me! We are having a small party for my son who will be turning 5 tomorrow. 15 guests invited to the party. We’ve been unsure about having a party due to covid but my son has his heart set on it and has never had a party. So we decided to go ahead with it and if everyone is well and regularly testing I don’t see an issue.
The venue have said one parent per child to minimise numbers and to wear masks indoors in line with government guidance. Goes without saying that anyone with symptoms or testing positive should stay at home right???
Well this morning I had a text from a friend saying that our other friend has tested positive. Let’s call her Lucy. So I called Lucy and she confirmed that herself, her partner and 1 of their 3 children have tested positive this week. The adults feel awful but the child has it mildly. They think it’s ok to still come to the party if one of the adults tests negatively on the day and brings one of the children who don’t have it. I’ve said NO. They will still be in their 10 day isolation period and I don’t want them to come and infect anyone else. Lucy said as long as they test negative on the day they will be fine to come! I’ve told them they should not be leaving the house at all and that I will be telling the venue they should be isolating and not to allow them entry. Now she is upset with me! And has told our friend I’m over reacting and it’s all because I never wanted them at the party in the first place. It’s going to cause a huge argument. I don’t care. Lucy is being completely selfish and extremely STUPID.
I’m not sure what I’m wanting from this post tbh. I know I’m in the right here!
It does feel good to write it down and get it off my chest though 😊

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Teacupsandtoast · 30/12/2021 09:19

Yes, Lucy is an idiot. Whether a negative LFT releases them from their isolation or not (and providing you're not in Scotland), it's just common sense not to come to a party the week your house is hoaching with covid 🙄

BunsOfAnarchy · 30/12/2021 09:24

Send her the link/screenshots of what the government guidelines are right now.

To be fair you shouldn't even have to do that. Even if they made the isolation period smaller, kids are unvaccinated and it would be fucking irresponsible as fuck to even think it would be remotely OK to risk them like this.
Also I know 2 people who passed away from covid a couple months ago who were both already doubly vaccinated.
You are not overreacting, you are simply making sure you're event isn't putting others at risk

BunsOfAnarchy · 30/12/2021 09:25

I dont even know Lucy and she has incensed me so much lol

Vickles20 · 30/12/2021 09:25

I had this yesterday for a laser tag event that was on. My son’s friend, let’s call him Don.. Don’s mum rang up to say Dons dad had covid. Even though the rest of family were fine. She wanted to let us know. We decided that it was best Don didn’t come with us due to him potentially being in the car with us, in our house beforehand for play date before laser tag event and that we would have another friend with us too. I felt terrible for Don. Don’s Mum was fine with our decision. I said that we would have Don over for play date and I’ll take him and my son to the soft play in a week or two.

Your party. Your rules
You are responsible for your family and the other party guests

Fenelladepompom · 30/12/2021 09:35

In England contacts dont have to isolate if they have a negative LFT. So technically if child and one parent have a negative test on the day they can go to the party. The decent thing would be for them to withdraw though.

CriminalOrator · 30/12/2021 09:36

Lucy is a moron. Tell her I said so.

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Fairydustdjdj · 30/12/2021 09:37

Both parents have tested positive!

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OnceuponaRainbow18 · 30/12/2021 09:39

You do realises next week your 5 year old will be at school where probably half the kids there will have been a close contact/have a family member with covid!?

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Fairydustdjdj · 30/12/2021 09:39

@Fenelladepompom
Both parents tested positive!
So it’s 2 of the 3 children who are currently negative but obviously close contact

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BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 30/12/2021 09:39

Apparently if you test negative on a lateral flow on days 6 and 7 of isolation, you can come out of the house on day 7.

Be idiotic to then come to a party on dayb7 tho!!

camperqueen54 · 30/12/2021 09:42

This is the trouble with organising parties in the middle of a pandemic I'm afraid. Some people will act stupidly but then so are you.

NoSquirrels · 30/12/2021 09:44

They think it’s ok to still come to the party if one of the adults tests negatively on the day and brings one of the children who don’t have it. I’ve said NO. They will still be in their 10 day isolation period and I don’t want them to come and infect anyone else

Well, depending on when they got a confirmed test or symptoms, Lucy could be correct that a negative LTF on both her and the child is OK and within the law. Isolation has been cut from 10 days to 7 days if you have 2 consecutive LFTs on days 6 & 7.

Whether you think it’s sensible and whether you disinvite them are separate matters to what the official rules are.

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Fairydustdjdj · 30/12/2021 09:47

@NoSquirrels
Thank you

Still within 6/ 7 days if they were to come

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Darbs76 · 30/12/2021 09:51

Are they on day 6/6? As technically they can leave isolation if testing negative. But I wouldn’t just go to a party, if I was mixing at all I’d let people know so they could choose to mix with me or not

maddening · 30/12/2021 10:13

Will it be day 7 at the party? If they are at day 7 and test negative they are good to go aren't they?

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Fairydustdjdj · 30/12/2021 10:18

@maddening

They got positive results on Tuesday.
The party is tomorrow.
I’m not sure which day exactly they developed symptoms but it would have been either Sunday or Monday. We were texting on Xmas day and they were all fine and symptom free x

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maddening · 30/12/2021 10:29

Well then they can't be at day 7, totally agree that they can't come, tell Lucy you understand that it is disappointing but you just don't want your son's party turning in to a super spreader event so you need to observe the rules at the moment.

Mrstamborineman · 30/12/2021 10:36

Lucy is thick as shit.

thepeopleversuswork · 30/12/2021 10:40

Lucy is a twat

CagneyNYPD1 · 30/12/2021 10:41

Even if the parents are on Day 7 for the party, the new rules for Day 6/7 are for asymptomatic people. Like my DD who tested positive in Oct and was asymptomatic throughout. Day 5 on her LFT she was negative but was still required to self isolate for 10 days. The adults in question are not asymptomatic and need to do the full 10 days. I will be generous and suggest that they parents are confused with the new rules.

@Fairydustdjdj you are quite right to confront them about this. It doesn't matter if the kids will be back in school together next week. A party is a treat, not an essential activity and you are simply making sure that the venue's rules are stuck to as best you can. Yes, there will be some fall out from this but so what. I hope your ds has a lovely party.

Stormsy · 30/12/2021 10:56

Doesn't the gov guidance say even if you test negative on day 6/7 you should still keep your distance and wfh etc?

Irrelevant anyway as this isn't the case for either positive parent here

Cofifeefee · 30/12/2021 10:59

Yes Lucy is an idiot but the problem with having a party right now is that one of the other guests might be in the same situation as Lucy but stay quiet and attend the party.

gingerbiscuits · 30/12/2021 11:50

'Lucy' is a stupid, selfish idiot & its people like her who are the reason this bloody virus spreads like it does!! I'm enraged on your behalf!! Let her kick off to whomever she pleases - she's no loss!! 😡

Marynotsocontrary · 01/01/2022 21:20

@Cofifeefee

Yes Lucy is an idiot but the problem with having a party right now is that one of the other guests might be in the same situation as Lucy but stay quiet and attend the party.

This. Bit silly to be having a party at all right now imo, but I know opinions differ.

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