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Original poster

His f**king alarm !!!

30 replies

Tirediam · 30/12/2021 07:24

Hey just need a rant !
My husband starts work early. He can start when he likes but chooses to start early to finish early which I get BUT this is what is really peeing me off… his bloody alarm! He likes to set about 3 alarms, starting about 5.45 so he can snooze to give him time to wake up properly so say 5.45, 6 and 6.15. This is an alarm on his iPhone that is also waking me at times and our toddler as our rooms are next to each other. So the three of us are awake at 6.15 when we don’t need to be. He said our son wakes at that time anyway but over our Christmas time off there were no alarms and our son was waking 7.30-8.15 every day.
I’ve asked him to set the alarm on his Apple Watch as that only wakes him but he said it’s so gentle it doesn’t wake him. I used to use my Apple Watch alarm so I know it wakes me with no issue.

Now I’m bloody knackered and up 2.5 hours before I need to be with my son who will be shattered super early today.
My son still wakes in early hours now and again and it’s me who sees to him ( our son asks for me, shouts if DH goes in), so easier for me to go in so I am bloody shattered and can’t function on no sleep!!
Just having a knackered rant but AIBU? USE YOUR APPLE WATCH ALARM!!!

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ThinWomansBrain · 30/12/2021 07:36

tell him to sleep in a different room if he won't be more considerate with alarms.
If his watch alarm is "too gentle" to wake him, he is probably getting up way to early for his body clock. Not great for his health - and probably what makes him an inconsiderate grumpy git as well.

GoodnightGrandma · 30/12/2021 07:38

He is a selfish dick. He needs to sleep in another room.

Cattitudes · 30/12/2021 07:41

Would he use a light alarm clock for the first alarm, it will make him feel more refreshed if he wakes up gradually. Might still wake you but not ds. That and his watch alarm might help. He also needs to go to bed earlier so it is easier to wake up.

Sparklfairy · 30/12/2021 07:43

Just to say my fitbit alarm has never ever woken me. That said, you can go around waking other people up when he's choosing to get up so early.

He needs the spare room/sofa. As he chooses his hours if he doesn't like it maybe you can find a halfway compromise time wise or something.

Sparklfairy · 30/12/2021 07:43

Cant go around waking people!!

IDidntFloatUpTheLaganInABubble · 30/12/2021 07:47

I get up at the same time and use my watch as an alarm so as not to wake DH.

Has he got the watch vibration on the highest intensity?

Shouldofgotahamster85 · 30/12/2021 07:48

Nope nope nope, my dh was similar and I would kick him out after the first alarm went off. He learned quickly
Utterly selfish and rude

TheTeenageYears · 30/12/2021 08:03

Fitbit alarm has always woken me and I bought my husband a cheaper vibrating watch from Amazon so he could ditch using his iphone as an alarm and waking me up. Has he actually tried using his apple watch @Tirediam and set it for the 3 times he is currently using his iphone alarm? He needs to sleep elsewhere if he can't find a way to wake up himself without waking the whole household.

girlmom21 · 30/12/2021 08:04

If he set his phone alarm and it only went off once would that be an acceptable compromise?

TinyLittlePandaSneeze · 30/12/2021 08:04

Ask him to just set the 615 alarm and get up when it goes off. Like there's a fire. He wouldn't snooze to get up then.

TinyLittlePandaSneeze · 30/12/2021 08:05

Also is it a nice tinkly alarm or a klaxon?

WednesdaysChildIsFullOfCake · 30/12/2021 08:11

Been there, as soon as it woke me up he got a kick or a prod to wake him up, if he didn't get out of bed he got kicked until he did. There was no need for a 2nd/3rd alarm.
Really inconsiderate of him, if he can't get his arse out of bed in the first instance I'd be telling him to sleep somewhere else until he can, with just one alarm

TurquoiseDragon · 30/12/2021 08:12

I've got a smart watch, and it's the only alarm that ever worked properly for me. It's a decent vibration, and it's not waking other people.

I used to have a digital clock alarm, but that was waking others as well, as I'm partly deaf, and don't always hear alarms.

OP's DH needs to start showing some consideration, and sleep elsewhere or use a different alarm, like a smart watch. Sleep deprivation is no joke. (I should know, I'm very sleep deprived right now due to heartburn keeping me awake most of the night. I'm back to bed in a minute, which is a luxury that OP doesn't have with a toddler.)

TinyLittlePandaSneeze · 30/12/2021 08:16

What would he do if the toddler was crying? Have a couple of snoozes before seeing to them?

mightbeyesmightbeno · 30/12/2021 08:19

Same situation here, and what's more annoying is when DH forgets to turn alarm off on days off 😡😡😡 Bloody Boxing Day, 6am!!!! I was so pissed off!!

He sleeps half the week in the spare room so I have some nights of solid sleep as he also snores, so all night disruption topped off by alarm in the morning. I need a break sometimes.

Original poster
Tirediam · 30/12/2021 08:20

Thanks all. I shall be speaking to him later about it. I’ve had a lovely time off for Christmas because I haven’t been waking stupid early and feel I can function.
I have to say that he would get up with toddler in a heartbeat but our son is all “Mammy Mammy” if he goes in so I go in as he settles quicker. It’s just this bloody repeat alarm.
Yes, I would compromise if his alarm only went off once.

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Aquamarine1029 · 30/12/2021 08:22

This can't be the only thing he's a selfish prick about.

Original poster
Tirediam · 30/12/2021 08:22

Oh @mightbeyesmightbeno I’d be raging!

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saleorbouy · 30/12/2021 08:22

Set one alarm at an appropriate time and get up.
The constant snooze alarms are a pain in the arse and very inconsiderate of everyone else in the house.

Original poster
Tirediam · 30/12/2021 08:23

@Aquamarine1029 it is! Trying to think if there is anything else 🙈. On the whole he’s amazing … just really selfish when it comes to this in the morning! And I really can’t function on shit sleep so I get super angry and tetchy and gotta log on and work from 9 and I’ll be an angry tired arse all day now.

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InTheLabyrinth · 30/12/2021 08:36

First alarm on his watch at 6 to bring him from deep sleep, and just a single alarm at 6.15?
Multiple alarms waking others at that time in the morning is antisocial in the extreme!

Mother87 · 30/12/2021 14:46

My DH used to do this... separate rooms now... bliss

PatriotCanes · 30/12/2021 15:07

I actually dumped someone for this- well not just this, it was just an example of what a selfish arse he was - he would set an alarm and then snooze it about 5 times and then get up and run a bath and get back into bed and assume I would be awake to kick him when the bath was ready, then he'd sing in the bath, then come in and throw himself on the bed, slam the drawer open to get his pants and slam it shut then slam himself back on the bed with his pants on then slam the drawer open to get his socks out then slam the drawer closed then stand up and put one sock on then slam himself down on the bed then stand up and put the other sock on and then slam himself down on the bed again and jerk me awake then slam the wardrobe doors open, bounce on the bed a few more times and then slam the bedroom door on his way out. Every day. Could not conceive of 1. Getting up the first time his alarm went off 2. Creeping quietly out of the room 3. Getting dressed anywhere else in the house or 4. Not slamming doors. I chucked him out the second time he flooded the bathroom. These days it would take far far less Grin

girlmom21 · 30/12/2021 15:10

@PatriotCanes you're a better person than me for letting him do that whole rigmarole more than once!

TyrannosaurusRegina · 30/12/2021 15:22

I guess you'll have to just be super noisy and inconsiderate late at night so as to impact on his sleep. See how he likes it.