Is this rude - NY

[Gobbolinothewitchscat]

Arranged with good friends that they would come round here for NY Eve

Texted today to confirm arrangements and got a text back saying that their plans have changed for NY Eve and they will now be having family to visit but we are welcome to come

Have said no thanks as feels like a very second hand invite and am somewhat PO-ed as have arranged internet shop etc for food for the meal etc that I will just cancel

My dad is very unwell in hospital at the moment so am probably OK that things are cancelled but the children were looking forward to it as was DH.

Is this rude or is it just me? DH thinks I should just let it go which I will but I do feel pissed off and think it’s rude. At a bare minimum, would expect to have been told that their plans had changed

@DelurkingAJ

It’s pretty awful. But they may have family like my DPIL. I’ve never recovered from going to stay with them a few days before DMIL’s birthday and DFIL staying that they were having a big party and it had be assumed we’d be there. I then had to pull out of a BBQ we’d been due at (it was DMIL’s big birthday). DH saw this as fairly normal, I was traumatised because of how rude it meant we were to our friends. DPIL are some of the nicest people I know except for their inability to plan more than three days in advance (cf this Xmas when they agreed to come to us definitely the weekend before…we’d been asking for some time and they just couldn’t quite commit!)

I would find that horrendous TBH. Presumably you told your friends ASAP?

I’m just going to try and let it go. Probably feeling a bit raw because of my Dad - no enquiry as to how he was in the cancellation text. I suppose they feel they have handled it fine as they invited us although I don’t see that as an invite that any self-respecting person would have accepted

I’m going to try not to dwell on it but it has made me see things from a different perspective

Out of order for you to have to chase an invite you put out to them. Shabby behaviour.

Really rude, shabby behaviour.

What is wrong with some people!! - soooooo rude.

@Gobbolinothewitchscat - of course, as soon as we were aware but it was hideous and we were utterly caught as DPIL had told all their friends that the DGC would be there…and neither party was local. Argh!