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AIBU?

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DF tested positive for covid

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Dasher789 · 29/12/2021 16:05

We have had some family staying for Christmas. Everyone left a couple of days ago. DF still here and planned to leave tomorrow or Friday. For the last day or so, he hasn't been feeling the best so took an LFT today which has came back positive. DH and I are negative.

Should DF isolate for the next 10 days with us or should he go home to isolate?

He lives a 4 hour drive away.

AIBU to want him to go home? He has been here since before Xmas and isn't the easiest of guests.

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Dasher789 · 29/12/2021 16:45

@scbchl he only took the test an hour and a half ago. You could be right but it seemed a matter of about 10mins before things worsened.

He is in the spare room and we don't need to use the bathroom he is using.

We had planned to have friends over for new years eve. Dh and i have put ourselves out for the whole of the Xmas period for our families. Its just a shame that they can all go home and enjoy their plans and we are still catering for everyone. Totally accept its selfish though.

He is talking to someone on the phone and saying he may need to stay for next 10 days.

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Olliesocks · 29/12/2021 17:01

I was fairly ok driving myself to get my pcr. On the way home 20 minutes later I felt so ill it was like I was drunk. It can hit you that quickly.

plinkplinkfizzer · 29/12/2021 17:02

So your Covid positive Father is interfering in your party plans . FFS

BeLessMe · 29/12/2021 17:07

@plinkplinkfizzer

So your Covid positive Father is interfering in your party plans . FFS

That’s what I though - although I’d be furious if I turned up to friends and then they let slip their DF, who was positive for Covid, just left a couple of days ago!

LittleBabyCheeses · 29/12/2021 17:12

[quote Dasher789]@scbchl he only took the test an hour and a half ago. You could be right but it seemed a matter of about 10mins before things worsened.

He is in the spare room and we don't need to use the bathroom he is using.

He is talking to someone on the phone and saying he may need to stay for next 10 days.[/quote]
I guess if you have a houseful for Christmas that’s the risk you take.
All your other guests will have been exposed too so they’ll have to take daily LFT’s for 7 days now.

CovidForChristmas · 29/12/2021 17:12

If he tests negative on day 6&7 he can be released from isolation on day 7.
I’d get him to take a PCR though, just so his medical records are accurate.
I personally felt much worse on day 2&3 so it’s possible he is now feeling worse. All the more reason to encourage him to go now! Joking.
Keep the windows open and a good distance as much as you can and you might not test positive.
And order more lateral flow tests now because it’s sensible for you and his other close contacts to test daily.

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Dasher789 · 29/12/2021 17:45

@covidforchristmas our local chemist is out of LFT's as is the online portal so I'm not sure what to do. We only have 2 left in the house. My dad really needs a pcr. I hope he feels well enough to go to the drive through tomorrow.

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Ireolu · 29/12/2021 17:52

It is likely you have covid too ( if you r gna get it) so shipping him off will make no difference to you getting it.

CovidForChristmas · 29/12/2021 18:00

Oh no, how annoying when he needs them to end isolation. I managed to order some yesterday.
You could ask on Facebook, I know our DCs school loaded us up before Christmas and not everyone uses them. We just ran out due to my unexpected positive.

Swonderful · 29/12/2021 18:01

It isn't a full 10 days because you start counting when you symptoms start.

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Dasher789 · 29/12/2021 19:20

@ireolu I have done an lft and it was negative. We really all need to go and get a pcr tomorrow.

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mammabear67 · 29/12/2021 20:51

If he doesn't want to go in the car can you order a postal PCR?

BellaChagall · 29/12/2021 20:57

I can't believe that your father is feeling unwell with covid symptoms and you want him to undertake a 4 hour drive home. Sorry, I don't get it at all.

IntrovertedOldLady · 29/12/2021 23:17

I don’t get it either. My dad annoys me so much but having had Covid, I can’t believe what you are suggesting

Ireolu · 30/12/2021 05:39

Yes it is negative for now because you are likely incubatiing it if you are going to get it. It's very infectious and if you have had close contact in the 48 hrs with a person who becomes symptomatic, you have been exposed and if you are going to get it you have it already (ie less likely if you have had booster within the last Few weeks/recent previous asymptomatic disease you were not aware of etc)

FindingMeno · 30/12/2021 05:53

Having family stay for Christmas was a chance many of us took.
It's fine for him to go home if he wants to and he's well enough but it doesn't seem like that's the case, so you need to step up, and graciously.
He's your dad ffs.

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Dasher789 · 31/12/2021 00:39

Df still not prepared to drive to get a pcr test today and there are no postal ones available in my area. I was able to get a box of lfts though. Have delivered meals and snacks all day to his bedroom door. Was just called upstairs half an hour ago to put his cup of tea on a stool rather than the floor as he has a bad back from lying in bed too long and can't bend down to pick things up anymore he says he feels fine (aside from bad back and slight cough) but has had a 2nd positive lft so it seems pretty certain to be covid. I'm still negative for the time being.

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Yuledo · 31/12/2021 00:44

Best bet would be to stay in the spare room.

BluebellsGreenbells · 31/12/2021 00:46

You must have known this was a possibly ?

How can you expect him to drive home, I assume he doesn’t have any basics in at home? And with deliveries like hens teeth he’ll need shopping.

I’m sorry you’re going to miss your party, so arrange another on in a few weeks, hardly matters does it?

Chloemol · 31/12/2021 02:50

Will he even be well enough to travel? What happens if he is taken ill on the 4 hour journey home? He will be exposing emergency staff to a positive case when in fact he could just isolate at yours

He lives on his own, he probably won’t have any food in, will you send him home with enough to last or expect home to go out and buy some

He’s ill, why would you send someone who is ill home to be alone

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