To ask her to do lateral flow tests before popping round?

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Friend is visiting this afternoon with her two kids. I've just done my LFT and usually send a quick photo of the result to whoever I'm seeing (if it's inside/not distanced). I've got NYE plans so seeing my friend is the only thing I'm really doing until Friday.

Is it unreasonable to ask her and her kids to test? I know it's not particularly nice to test kids...

If she can get hold of any tests YANBU to ask

If she doesn't want to have to go through the ball ache of testing her kids, she would not be unreasonable to give the visit a miss.

I don’t think yabu to ask.

I do think yabu to send pics of your lateral flow tests to people! That’s very ... well... odd!

Yes, I thought the pic sending was odd too.

Depends if she has any. Our pharmacies haven't had stock for 10 days, can't order any online and no PCR tests available in the whole of England as of checking this morning, including home tests.

I've been testing myself anytime I leave to meet anyone. However, I will not routinely test my 2.5 year old. Our GP even said not to test her unless absolutely necessary, and in all likely hood if one of us has it then the other likely will anyway.

I've been quite clear with people on my stance before meeting.

You actually send photos of the tests? Have we really been reduced to this?

Tbh I'd put the visit off if I was her

Not over the top to expect people to test but a bit weird to send photos (or expect them them back).

You can ask. If it were me I’d probably cancel seeing you as I don’t want to put my kids through testing too much and we’re running low on the tests

This is why we are running out of lateral flow tests! Work require twice a week, so I'm not sure why a random visit to a friend would require more than that

@VaguelyInteresting - the amount of people who I've read on here who have lied about taking a LFT or faked a positive one to get out of things. Maybe the OP is the most sensible.

You can ask but you can't make her

If you asked me to test myself and my kids I wouldn't bother coming round (assuming you aren't CEV)

YABU. Enough is enough. I'll test if I'm seeing someone vulnerable or if I have actual symptoms. Until then I'll carry on as normal with my 3 vaccines.

YANBU to ask her, if she refuses for whatever reason YANBU to rearrange the meet up.

Sending pics is batshit, do you think those receiving them wouldn’t believe your result? Would you need to see a photo of others’ LFT’s to believe they had done one/tested neg?

Perfectly reasonable request. You’ll need to be prepared to cancel though because tests aren’t easy to obtain quickly atm.

Now Christmas is over I think I'd be reluctant to test but would do if asked. I would not test my child.

A photo is OTT, and tbh, a stock photo could be obtained easily enough (not saying I would do that, or your friend, but some folk might?).

If you are that worried OP just meet outside.

The photo isn't necessary! It's just become a bit of a thing between some of my friends, I'd trust someone to just say 'it was negative'.

Although I sent her a snap of mine and she replied with hers. I'll not bother asking her to test the kids. Hopefully it'll be fine.

It really does feel like you have to be so much more choosy about social plans.