Do you think compliments come naturally?

[Hello554]

My partner never compliments me unless i mention it and then it just feels false? As he wouldn’t have said it otherwise.
He seems to find it easy to compliment anyone else he might find attractive. I compliment him often but as I find him attractive it just comes naturally to say he looks good etc.

it’s just got me thinking that maybe he just doesn’t find me that attractive? I know some people will say that he wouldn’t be with you if he didn’t but he was upfront when we first met In saying I wasn’t his type but dated me anyway lol
Just wondering what other peoples views are or if I’m just being insecure?

It was a bit unnecessary imo to say you weren't his type.

Do you look the same all the time?

I always pay attention to when the MIL says she has a hair appointment. I can then compliment her on her new 'do' even if I hadn't really noticed.

I don’t think I do. I change the way I do my hair and some days I wear makeup and others I don’t. So it is quite easy to notice that I’ve done something different. We went to a wedding reception a while ago so I got all dressed up and he didn’t say anything then either lol

Did you watch love island this summer? I am thinking of Jake and Liberty?

TDLR Jake was dropping on and off that Liberty wasn’t his type and then it veered into him negging her....a lot. Liberty really liked him so she let an awful lot, that she shouldn’t have, go. Moral of the story everyone loved Liberty and not so much Jake.

Honestly I do think it comes naturally to compliment someone you are into.

you sound a bit needy TBH
why do you need constant affirmations from someone?

I think the nub is he finds it natural to compliment others.
I don't think noticing that is needy at all.

I'd guess he not attracted/not that attracted to you - my OH was exactly the same, said I wasn't his type, never complimented me and that's what it turned out to be. He just didn't have anyone else (much as he tried to line someone else up). Pretty shitty behaviour really.

If he said you're not his type but he dated you anyway (An arsehole thing to say) and he usually compliments others, then it's likely he doesn't find you compliment-worthy.

It's sad though.

I know some people will say that he wouldn’t be with you if he didn’t but he was upfront when we first met In saying I wasn’t his type but dated me anyway lol

I wouldn’t read too much into this. People often do date people they think are initially not their type but end up changing their minds.

You can say it a couple of ways though: one us what a fool I was to think I only had one type versus how lucky are you that I'm lowering my standards.

@OldaRailer

You can say it a couple of ways though: one us what a fool I was to think I only had one type versus how lucky are you that I'm lowering my standards.

This is true but when we consider him never complimenting her BUT readily complimenting others, it makes it seem like the latter.

If he never or rarely compliments others, then it could probably be that his personality isn't the type to compliment people. But that's not the case, as OP's written.

OP, there may be other reasons why he doesn't compliment you but does so to others, but this seems more likely (in my opinion), given what you've written so far.

@ThinWomansBrain

you sound a bit needy TBH why do you need constant affirmations from someone?

I don’t feel like I need constant affirmations. If he wasn’t complimenting any one else then it wouldn’t cross my mind as it would just be something he never does to anyone.