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Husband positive lft - can we stay elsewhere?

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Countrylifemama · 28/12/2021 23:27

Hi

My husband tested positive on two LFT today he’s got mild cold which of course turned out to be Covid. PCR tests not back yet - we’ve got 2 young children and the 3 of us tested negative on LFT today. Husband has suggested for us to live at his mums whilst he isolated at home to prevent us catching it and just falling ill in general.

I’m so confused surely we should be staying at home in case our symptoms start a few days later? Is this even legal to be able to go stay elsewhere after household contact tested positive? What’s the best thing to do?

Thank you

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DrinkingHomeForChristmas · 28/12/2021 23:29

Does he not like his Mother and want her to be exposed to Covid? Stay at home

KeepYellowBoxClear · 28/12/2021 23:31

Aah, “isolating at home” while you and his mum look after the kids. Sounds very convenient for him 🙃

Glitterblue · 28/12/2021 23:31

Weirdly, if you're double jabbed, it's allowed Confused I wouldn't feel right about doing it though

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 28/12/2021 23:32

You should stay where you are. You’ve been exposed to it now and could pass it on to his Mum unknowingly. A negative LFT doesn’t really mean anything in these circumstances especially not on a young child.

santaclothes · 28/12/2021 23:32

Stay at home and keep his isolated from the rest of you. We have a rule that if either of the girls have to isolate (they share a room) or if DH or I had to them the isolating person gets the room and the other bunks on the sofa or takes their mattress to the living room.

Returnoftheowl · 28/12/2021 23:33

Chances are you've already been exposed if you're going to get it (contact doesn't seem to be a guarantee, I've been in very close contact with 2 people who tested positive very shortly afterwards, but I haven't caught it myself), so going to stay with his mum sounds a bit like closing the door after the horse has bolted (and not overly fair on his mum, if you do have it and aren't showing positive yet).

Helpstopthepain · 28/12/2021 23:33

Is he okay with his mum being exposed? Is she?

Frazzled2207 · 28/12/2021 23:33

It’s very likely - but not certain- one of the rest of you will test positive in the coming days. By all means banish him to the spare room but infecting his mother doesn’t sound like a good idea!

frogsbreath · 28/12/2021 23:34

Stay at home. You're just potentially spreading or around as you could already be infected.

LittleOwl153 · 28/12/2021 23:34

I believe you don't have to isolate until you get a result now given that you don't have any symptoms yourselves. So in theory so long as you moved before your results can in you would be fine to do so. (You are also allowed to "go home" from wherever you are if you do get positive results of course.

In reality however only 1 of us tested positive on lft, all4 of is did however on pcr later that day. So would you take the chance of infecting his mother also?

arethereanyleftatall · 28/12/2021 23:35

You've probably already got it I'm afraid, or at least one of you will have. So, all you'll do is pass it to his mum.

123namey · 28/12/2021 23:35

The only way I’d do this is if you can go somewhere that’s empty. I wouldn’t risk coming into contact with anyone else when you don’t know if yours will develop still. My husband had covid last week and managed to not come out the bedroom/en-suite, I delivered dinners to his door and slept in the other room with the baby. He just had a cold too. We were negative and it was only him who caught it so stay away from him if possible

arethereanyleftatall · 28/12/2021 23:38

We've all had it this past week in our house. So mild in all 4 of us, that we passed it on to each other before we knew we had it. Positive lfts followed one day after each other. 1 a little bit grotty day each, a couple of sneezes, and a nice waste of a week cooped up indoors.

EasterIssland · 28/12/2021 23:39

Are you working ? If so who would take care of the girls when not in the school!?

Bobbi73 · 28/12/2021 23:43

I'm just recovering from a bout of Covid and a week after showing symptoms, despite testing every couple of days, my son tested positive today.
Please don't go anywhere. Banish him to the bedroom and stay at home.

PurpleDaisies · 28/12/2021 23:45

This depends on where you are in the country.

Is his mum happy to potentially have a load of people who might test positive in a few days staying?

DappledOliveGroves · 28/12/2021 23:52

If his mum is happy for you to all stay then crack on - you don't have to self isolate unless and until you get symptoms/test positive and if it'll be easier being at her house and she's happy to have you then go for it. Having said that, everyone I know with Covid at present (8 at last count) is fine, it's literally a cold, so I imagine you could all stay home with no issue.

User3456 · 29/12/2021 00:12

Agree with the majority of the comments. It's currently legal for you to go elsewhere (assuming you're double jabbed) - but really unwise. You could be incubating it and then pass it to his mum. Also, if it was me I would want to be nearby to him in case he takes a turn for the worse. Get him to isolate in the bedroom, ask him to wear a mask if he needs to come out (eg to use the bathroom) and get some ffp2 minimum masks in, in case you need to go in to check on him. If you have them, a pulse oximeter and thermometer might be useful too. Book a delivery for your shopping and cancel any social engagements too. When DS had it, he did need monitoring (very high heart rate and temperature) but he didn't need medical intervention in the end, and me and DH didn't catch it.
Really hope his symptoms stay mild, and that you and the kids don't catch it.

Flowers500 · 29/12/2021 00:24

Wow what has his poor mum done to him???

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