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Worried that I've caused something!

7 replies

KCee30 · 28/12/2021 15:24

Unintentionally!

Basically I dropped off some bits from the shop to a neighbour/friend as her car is in garage, let's call her Sharon.

Sharon has dc and split from their dad after a turbulent relationship on and off for years. Sharon is now with someone else. Sharon had updated her relationship status on Facebook and her kids have met him as there's been photos of them altogether recently.

At the door I asked how things were going with her 'new man' as general chit chat.

She told me to shush as her kids dad was there and he doesn't know yet. I apologised and said how sorry I was for opening my gob. I know her ex is a bit of an asshole. She doesn't think he heard.

I just feel an idiot. It's on Facebook and her kids know so there's a good chance her ex will find out anyway. I just assumed he would know and I didn't know he was there either. He lives hours away and I assume staying there.

I'm worried I've caused her a lot of grief now. She's not a close friend as such, such a neighbour/school run friend.

I want to message her and apologise but worried he might see the message so don't want to stir it anymore.

Feel an idiot 😪

OP posts:
WhatTheFuckingFuck123 · 28/12/2021 15:28

If it's on Facebook it's open. Don't worry about it x

Heartbroker · 28/12/2021 15:29

Who cares.

Lockheart · 28/12/2021 15:30

If you put something on social media you have no right to get angry if someone else brings it up in conversation. This is her problem, not yours. If she's that keen for her ex not to know then she needs to keep it much quieter.

KCee30 · 28/12/2021 15:32

@Heartbroker

Who cares.
Her ex has been violent in the past. So I'm really worried about it.
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Fuckitydoodah · 28/12/2021 15:33

You didn't do anything wrong. She's a bit of an idiot to put it on Facebook and let the kids know if she's trying to hide it from her ex. Don't give it any more head space.

KCee30 · 28/12/2021 15:39

@Fuckitydoodah

You didn't do anything wrong. She's a bit of an idiot to put it on Facebook and let the kids know if she's trying to hide it from her ex. Don't give it any more head space.
Thank you. It did surprise me that her ex was there and didn't know. Her kids have sen and if they are anything like my Ds who is on the spectrum they won't know how to keep things secret so surprised they haven't told their dad.

Seems unfair on the new guy too.

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WorraLiberty · 28/12/2021 15:39

Her ex has been violent in the past. So I'm really worried about it.

Well she clearly isn't or she wouldn't have told Facebook 🤷‍♀️

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