Playing the Covid blame game.

[GaiusHelenMohiam]

I’ve seen a few threads about this and it’s happening in my life right now.

DH and I have it, my sister has just tested positive and she’s having a go at me that she got it from seeing us. Except I was daily testing at that point as colleagues had it, she knew this.

She’s even picking it apart further saying DH must have had it first, despite him WFH and not going anywhere except out with me that weekend and me working with the public, based on timelines.

I’ve said it doesn’t matter where or who we got it from, surely? And no one is spreading it on purpose. I could have picked it up from hundreds of places as my life has been pretty hectic for weeks now working and socialising.

It’s doing my head in actually. I know over a dozen people with Covid who I have been in close quarters with, I’m not about to go shouting at them for potentially giving to me.

AIBU to think we need to stop blaming and shaming? It’s highly contagious and the isolation rules are confusing and ridiculous.

YANBU. Anyone could get it from anywhere at present.

@CremeEggThief

YANBU. Anyone could get it from anywhere at present.

That's not strictly true. See the multiple posts about people who've lied about testing.

The only way to not be at risk is to not see anyone or go anywhere so all the blaming is ridic

Very few people can be absolutely 100% certain where they caught it from if it’s outside their household. At this point, if you’re choosing to see people you’re choosing to accept a level of risk. My family all did LFTs before coming round for Christmas, as did we. I wouldn’t dream of blaming one of them for bringing it into the house if they had, or vice versa. I accept that tests are only at a point in time and aren’t 100% accurate. If I wasn’t prepared to accept that I wouldn’t have had everyone round.

There should be no shame involved in catching or passing on a highly contagious respiratory virus if taking reasonable and proportionate precautions.

It's a highly contagious virus!

Unless she is locking herself into her house then she needs to grow up and accept its now a risk regardless of where you go unless you don't go out!

It's very different if people are seeing people with covid then seeing others that is deliberately putting others in harms way.

Wholly agree OP.

At what point do we stop pretending we can control the spread (we cant; we can only delay the catching thereof/prolong the pandemic). Vaccines are amazing (they protect incredibly well against severe illness), we should all get vax'd, however they cant prevent infection - we are ALL going to catch it at some point (and soon!), and most likely will have it more than once in our lifetime!

GaolBhoAlba

Controling the spread isn't just about preventing deaths. It's about preventing hospitals and other services being overwhelmed

YANBU given you were up front with her that you had been in close contact with colleagues and you'd been out socialising.

Your sister is being totally unreasonable.

However, I’m seeing lots of cases of people either being fatalistic (can’t stop the spread, what’s the point of even trying) or believing themselves to be immune (had my jabs, should just be able to get on with life now) and not bothering with basic precautions like LFTs, mask wearing etc. I reserve the right to blame them contributing to making a bad situation worse.

YANBU. It is awful the way some people feel the need to signs somebody to blame and vilify when they catch covid. Bottom line is we all know it is out there so unless somebody is choosing to shield they have to accept there is a risk they will catch covid.

It is absurd to me that anybody would choose to socialise and then become upset when they catch covid as a result and try to blame somebody else for giving it to them. Nobody is purposefully going out trying to catch covid and nobody is purposefully trying to pass it on to others either.

Covid is often asymptomatic or the symptoms are different to those highlighted by the government, the rules regarding testing and isolation are confusing and ever changing, LFTs aren’t 100% accurate, vaccines don’t stop people catching or spreading it and on top of this there are plenty of harmful conspiracy theories and other misinformation being spread.

The only person you should be relying on to keep you safe from covid is you. You can’t rely on others to follow the guidance correctly and safely or even that the current guidance is correct and safe. If people don’t want to catch covid then they need to ensure they are not socialising with others, that they maintain social difference, wear masks, stay outdoors or in ventilated areas etc. You can’t ever know with 100% certainty another person is free from the virus so if you don’t want to risk catching it stay away from other people as best you can, it really is that simple and if you can’t do that then accept you might catch it and that the blame for that will fall on you.