Hand me down gifts??

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AUAE · 28/12/2021 00:06

My SIL just gave my DS and DD their gifts for Christmas, both of which were hand me down clothes from her DDs (that I don’t think they’d worn and smelt very musty). I don’t have a problem with hand me downs but trying to pass them off as new baffles me. My DS was so grateful to receive this T-shirt, it just broke my heart to think that no effort had been put into the gift, and I spent weeks trying to find the best present for her DDs. Am I being unreasonable?

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Veryverycalmnow · 28/12/2021 00:12

How did you know they were hand- me- downs? If they'd not been worn, could they possibly be new? Could they be in financial difficulty?
I think the fact your daughter was happy is more important than the gift itself. Accept that everyone's present buying style is different and move on.

Veryverycalmnow · 28/12/2021 00:13

I mean son, oops

Anordinarymum · 28/12/2021 00:14

If they liked the gifts then leave it. It is the thought that counts.

LawnFever · 28/12/2021 00:15

If they hadn’t been worn how were they hand me downs?

At least your DS has more manners than you to be grateful for a gift.

SleepingStandingUp · 28/12/2021 00:16

Do you mean clothes without the tags but they've not been worn by their cousins but badly stored?

I mean if money is tight and it's stuff they actually like I'm not sure there's an issue but I do see why it rankles.

However if it's the right size and style for DS it doesn't sound like she's just rooted through her kids clothes for something to wrap up

SleepingStandingUp · 28/12/2021 00:17

Oh are yo u also upset that its a GIRLS tshirt handed from her daughter to your son?

pastypirate · 28/12/2021 00:18

It wouldn't bother me in the scheme of things. Hand me downs and second hand clothes are normal for my dds - no inverse snobbery meant just observational.

My dds aunty always gives them something she's got from a charity shop. Usually a book. Doesn't bother me in the slightest shes made an effort.

RuggerHug · 28/12/2021 00:18

If your DS liked it then she obviously put some thought in and didn't just throw anything from a cupboard his way. There could be anything going on that means new or not second hand bought wasn't possible but she wanted to make sure they got something (unless there's a back story or she handed it over while bragging about spending hundreds on her own child)

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