Having an 'early' midlife crisis

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Just wondering if anyone else has felt like this at times. Midlife crisis supposedly happens to the middle aged. I am 30 next spring and I don't know whether it's due to being stuck in a damn pandemic for almost two years but God I feel bored.

Suddenly, I've been having a moment over the last few months where I'm like, shit, I'm nearly 30. Still young, but I feel I've wasted my teens and 20s. I'm so old in the mind now. I have a good, albeit sometimes dull job, and I most people I work with are much older. A wonderful boyfriend, we bought our first house last year, a beautiful dog, no children yet.

But I am bored. I don't go out much, being made to work from home right now. Friends don't want to meet up much anymore. The pandemic keeps shutting events and stuff down. I'm a 90s kid, didn't live through the 80s. But suddenly I have become obsessed with anything 80s and 90s. Listening to the music, started buying and wearing that style of clothing, especially the rock bands of the time, 80s/90s films. But also 00s music; linkin park, blink-182 etc, music from my teenage years I've become obssessed with again. I've suddenly become vegetarian and wanting to try out Veganuary soon. Suddenly bored and wanting to be completely different and feel younger again, to an extent. Want to meet new people but don't know how.

If I was actually middle aged my family would probably think I was going crazy and tell me to go see a therapist lol. I'm craving some kind of excitement in my life. Has anyone else has crazy moments like this and how did it go?

You just need some fun OP. It sounds like the pandemic has taken it's toll and you're aware that your youth, whilst it's still here, is precious.

That's a good thing. What hobbies have you enjoyed when younger? There's loads of clubs out there....would you play a sport or maybe try some amateur dramatics?

I think you sound like you want to experience new things and venture outside your comfort zone. Maybe try some new hobbies that you would never have thought of before. Book a holiday somewhere you’ve never been - even if it is in the country you live in. You could try a new hairstyle and experiment with a completely different look. I do think the pandemic has made everything boring though. If I didn’t have tennis (which I am obsessed with), I would be so bored too!

I think it’s a late quarter life crisis

You just sound bored, which is no wonder if you don’t like your job and given the pandemic etc. It also sounds like you have settled for house and dog on the young side for you.

Buy a notebook, start jotting down things that catch your attention, things you’d like to do, and make half a dozen things happen this year. Do some reading around shaking up your life.

Do you want to change company or actual career? If it’s the former, make that happen, if it’s the latter, career shifters is a good organisation.

Put any plans for kids on hold for 2 or 3 years, you want to work this out first.