My partner and I don’t live together, I’m going through a messy divorce and starting a business, my partner has just started a new job and has terrible back pain and currently is looking at a diagnosis of arthritis in his 30’s. I don’t feel that we have spent much quality time together recently due to all the above things, and he was supposed to be flying home on Boxing Day however it’s been cancelled due to changes to travel rules. This morning he told me that he wants to spend a few nights apart from me because he needs time to heal and recover. I said yes of course if that’s what’s best for him, but then he didn’t leave and we ended up spending most of the day together. As the day went on I started to feel anxious about when he was actually going to go and when he did finally say he was leaving I told that it hurts me that over the holiday season that he would prefer to be alone than to be with me. He says that I’m not being empathetic and I’m centred in myself only. So really that’s the question should I have not told him how I actually felt about it or just swallowed my feelings for his sake?