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AIBU to think I can get fit doing 15 mins a day?

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worriedaboutfitness · 27/12/2021 18:17

I absolutely hate exercise. You name it I've tried it- walking, swimming, classes, personal trainer, yoga, everything.

However I am really unfit, and now I'm 30 I'm aware that I don't want to end up like my parents- almost immobile at the age of 65 from a life time of not moving their bodies.

I've joined a gym in earnest, but I really cannot make myself do long workouts- because I'm so unfit it's really a horrible experience for me, and I don't feel good afterwards. However I have been for the last 3 days and done about 15 mins of cardio each time. I know that most normal people go to the gym every couple of days for a proper session but I just don't know if I can bring myself to that.

AIBU to think I can improve my fitness levels in this way? Or is it not long enough to make a difference?

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worriedaboutfitness · 27/12/2021 19:46

This is all really helpful @NeverDropYourMooncup- going to look at all those machines tomorrow! I like the sound of a sit down at least Smile

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jerometheturnipking · 27/12/2021 19:48

I get where you're coming from - it's hard to find the motivation when your fitness levels are low, and keeping yourself accountable when you've not found a workout style that you enjoy (or even just find tolerable). I wonder if it might be worth exploring the option of paying for a couple of personal trainer sessions - you might find that having one set up once a week, once a fortnight (or whatever) helps to keep you accountable?

ExcaliburBaby · 27/12/2021 19:48

Could you add in a few Joe Wicks beginners HIIT workouts at home too? They will give you a good intro into body weight cardio/strength exercises that will really help! Squats, burpees etc. And all can be done at your own pace/level. Whenever I’ve slacked off on the gym front I always go back to basics with Joe Wicks on YouTube.

ThunderSocks · 27/12/2021 19:49

There was a really interesting programme about the benefits of short bursts of exercise on radio 4 a few weeks back - might be worth a listen?:

www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m000zljp

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 27/12/2021 19:51

I don't know if you've got an Apple Watch but Apple Fitness looks quite good. I'm planning on starting the walking workouts as some of them are quite interesting.

SnowdropSally · 27/12/2021 19:59

Any exercise is better than no exercise.

I’d never be able to do regular 60 minute intense sessions Honestly, you only think that, once you build up to it (and it happens pretty quickly) you’ll wonder what you ever did before. This comes from the person who was a couch potato 5 years ago at age 49. I now run 5k three times a week and do at least 4 HIIT sessions a week as well as ride my horse every day. I also found a decent diet helped me long the way. Good luck OP you got this 💪

LaChanticleer · 27/12/2021 20:07

I’m in awe of anyone who can push their body like that though, and wish I could be more like that.

The point is, when I first started doing intense gym work, I couldn’t do it either!

You have to start somewhere!

And it’s still not easy for me. Sometimes I just have to grit my teeth and remember it’ll be over and I’ll feel so much better.

So maybe just do 10 minutes - do it 3 times a week. Then the following week do 11 minutes.

Or go back to C25K and take it slooooow.

Or can you find a friend, and make an agreement that you’ll both commit to twice a week, and set out a programme and hold each other to it. Go together to the gym, and be each other’s coach! Two ladies at my gym do this and they urge each other on, and look like they’re having a good time!

airedailleurs · 27/12/2021 20:07

@worriedaboutfitness

I guess I just want to feel fitter- I am very aware that I never really move my body. Aside from the health element it makes me feel very detached from it, I don’t really feel like me if that makes sense? Like I’m wearing a costume of someone else’s body or something. I’d just like to connect to it a bit more, and feel healthier and with a bit more energy. And not die of wheezing when walking up the stairs!
Like your description! I would recommend starting more gradually, say 30 -45 mins every other day. By the time you've warmed up and stretched the 15 mins will be nearly gone. You don't mention your age but as you get older a recovery day is always wise, especially if your body isn't used to being active. Definitely join a gym to get support. Some gyms offer a few sessions with a personal trainer when you join. Also don't ignore the benefits of a brisk walk (do you have a dog?) or a swim.
elisaveta2 · 27/12/2021 20:08

OP please look up fitnessblender.com!! They do lots of different types of home workouts - you can start with easy ones and move on to HIIT in a few weeks'/months' time maybe, and try different types of exercise. The website is run by a husband and wife team in the US and they are incredible down to earth and sympathetic. They make it very easy to get fit with just 15 minutes a day! Smile

LaChanticleer · 27/12/2021 20:15

Another way of using a treadmill for a proper HIIT session for 15 minutes is to adjust the incline. Set the treadmill at a walking pace which feels just the challenging side of comfortable, then every minute, increase the incline by 0.5

By your 15th minute that will be an incline of about 7. Then for a further 15 minutes, go down 0.5 every minute.

rookiemere · 27/12/2021 20:15

With your walk to and from the gym then it sounds perfect as you can increase the pace as you get quicker.
If you're walking 10-15 mins each way I'd focus on weights at the gym. Unfortunately I do think 25-30 mins is a bit more of a realistic minimum time to spend if you want to increase your fitness.

CommanderBurnham · 27/12/2021 20:18

Yes yes yes.

15 minutes a day is more than you do now so you will definitely be fitter. It will do your self esteem a world of good and who knows where it will take you.

It's a realistic goal, and as they say Rome wasn't built in a day. The first step is the hardest.

I'd say keep it simple. If you have stairs, jog or walk up and down for 15mins, or jog in the spot for 15mins with some music on.

Get familiar with the feeling of your heart beating fast, the sound of your breathing, sweating. And then how good you feel about yourself.

ByGrabtharsHammerWhatASavings · 27/12/2021 20:45

This time last year I also had an extremely low exercise tolerance OP. I started C25K and really struggled with the first few weeks. On my first run I was so of breath after just a single minute that I thought I had no chance of ever running 5k. I had to repeat lots of runs before I could move forwards to the next week, it took me 9 months rather than the 9 weeks it's supposed to, but I can now comfortably run 5K. I never in my life though that would be possible. My point is that no matter what exercise you choose, starting small and building up is the best option. Today you can do 15 minutes but who knows where you'll be in a years time.

Welcomebacksummer · 27/12/2021 21:01

@worriedaboutfitness

Oh god I would love to think so *@Welcomebacksummer*!! I bought a hula hoop thinking that would solve all my problems about four months ago but I am simply unable to make the hoop stay up Sad Felt a bit pathetic about it lol
It does get easier, it's just a bit.. dull. I was quite prepared to suffer it, had someone said it would only need 15 mins a day! 😒
Noisyprat · 27/12/2021 21:06

I also like your description re posted by @airedailleurs, it absolutely makes sense. Happy to be corrected but I think you, like many of us, are detached from what our bodies can actually do. I sometimes find that I am scared to exercise because my body won't be able to do what my mind is telling it. However I always realise that my body can do more than I think it can and then I get motivated to push it.

Start small and build trust between your brain and your body.

Enterthedragons · 27/12/2021 21:13

Yes read Fast Exercise by Michael Mosley

Thickasmincepie · 27/12/2021 21:15

And there's no shame in stopping during a class. Sometimes I'm full of beans, but other times I have to take breaks. Same as running. Sometimes I do the whole thing with barely any stops, but other times it's every km and I worry I'll never make it home!

Maybe83 · 27/12/2021 21:17

Sign up with PT for some session. They will give you work outs for arms legs full body. I hated exercise absolutely hated. Found the gym completely overwhelming and getting a PT completely changed my view on it. I could see changes in my body within 4 weeks.

I was doing 30 mins three times a week but haven't been since October thanks to several bouts of illness and a hospital stay but am going back tomorrow.

NatashaBedwouldbenice · 27/12/2021 21:18

Look up the work of Rangan Chatterjee, starting with this podcast episode, drchatterjee.com/bj-fogg-the-secret-to-making-new-habits-stick/ and one of his books (The Four Pillar Plan if your main goal is health or Feel Great Lose Weight if it is weightloss).

3luckystars · 27/12/2021 21:25

Jillian Michaels 30 day shred made me dramatically fitter. It’s only 20 minutes in total. I am also an exercise hater and found I could do this dvd every day at 7am and was able to stick to it.

Have just started again now.

3luckystars · 27/12/2021 21:32

What also helped me hugely was reading that most people hate doing exercise 90% of the time. So just maybe one time in 10, I might actually find it ok. I’m never going to actually want to do it.

But the thing is, it will always make you feel better afterwards, and whatever you do today, will make tomorrow easier for you so just keep going.

Try the Jillian Michaels and see how you get on. All the very best.

notanothertakeaway · 27/12/2021 21:33

@ByGrabtharsHammerWhatASavings

This time last year I also had an extremely low exercise tolerance OP. I started C25K and really struggled with the first few weeks. On my first run I was so of breath after just a single minute that I thought I had no chance of ever running 5k. I had to repeat lots of runs before I could move forwards to the next week, it took me 9 months rather than the 9 weeks it's supposed to, but I can now comfortably run 5K. I never in my life though that would be possible. My point is that no matter what exercise you choose, starting small and building up is the best option. Today you can do 15 minutes but who knows where you'll be in a years time.
@ByGrabtharsHammerWhatASavings

That's amazing. Well done you. Well done for persevering

MissMaple82 · 27/12/2021 21:48

There's a great you tuber Lucy Wyndham -read who swears by only doing 10 mins a day. Some impressive before and after pics. I will be starting in the new year

NeverDropYourMooncup · 27/12/2021 23:03

If it's okay with you, I'll just give an example of how I started back up after a long, long hiatus. Three times a week, every other day, then something different for pleasure at the weekend (swim, pilates, yoga, walking, run-walk, run. Or sleeping and a very long bath followed by at home stretching whilst watching TV, whatever works for you).

15-20 minute walk to the gym.

In gym, warmup on the rower - water bottle to your side, put your headphones in and get your music playing, rather than the piped stuff.

Set the resistance about 5-6 and go for a stroke rate of 28-32. No going mad on it and yanking hard with your arms, just concentrating on keeping a nice, steady, even motion with no discomfort and maintaining good posture and form for ten minutes. When you finish, drink some water and take a short time to get up, as depending upon your base level of fitness, you might feel a little wobbly. Shake your legs out a little as you get the cleaning spray and paper cloth, clean off the seat and handles and move on.

Next, go to the leg abductor (open) and adductor (close) machines. They'll be the ones that rarely have anybody on them.

Set the weight to minimum and the position of your legs to 'comfortable' (open/outside the pads and squeezing in or closed/inside the pads and opening out) using the handle to your right had side (lift and allow to move to the setting you want). Do a couple (opening or closing) to see how you feel - they could be ridiculously easy, so bring the weight to rest and use the pin to select the next plate. You need to feel like you're doing something but not that it takes all your effort to get it to move. A controlled rhythm works, say 1-2-3-4 out-2-3-4. Have a go at doing ten. Have some water. Do another ten. More water. Do another ten (or do multiples of eight - the last couple of a set should feel like you had to put some real effort it but not that they kill you). More water then use the handle to release the pads so you can step off without falling over. Clean the machine.

Swap to the other machine and do the same. You may well need to use a lighter weight on one movement compared to the other. Drink water, clean the machine, move on. I tend to go to the leg press next if it's a legs day.

Adjust the machine so that you have your feet comfortably flat against the plate, back well supported. Do the same trying the motion, then trying a weight. It's a good stretch for your hips as well. You can do it more slowly - don't try to go at warp speed and don't lock your knees out straight - you'll feel it in your butt most.

Depending upon how you feel now, you could do leg extension (it works on different muscles) or, as you've done 15 minutes with warmup, you could look at warming down. It's easy enough to go back onto the rower for another ten minutes. More water, shower if you do that at the gym, walk home, have a good meal with your choice of protein in it shortly after you get home.

The following day, you will likely have some sensations in your leg muscles. It'll be ok, they shouldn't be agony, just a little tender at most. It'll go by the next visit with the warmup and if you're feeling brave, a foam roller will help get to spots you didn't know you had in the meantime.

Next time, instead of concentrating upon your legs, you could do your back and arms - so you try lat pulldown, overhead row and bicep/tricep machines. Time after that, back to legs.

All the machines have instructions on them, so it's not hard to work out how to use them, and there should always be a member of staff around to ask questions, anyhow.

After a few visits, you might feel like you want to do more on the rower, try out the treadmill (NO leaping on it whilst it's moving, starting off at walking pace (3-5 kph) and ALWAYS fit the emergency stop cable by attaching it to your waistband) or another machine. Remember that nothing should hurt, especially not your knee - don't ever be embarrassed to say 'Actually, nah' and get off.

That start will help give you an idea of where you are strong, what muscles have been neglected and will be, despite what people may say (and completely put you off the idea because they can't conceive of anybody wanting to start something sustainably or wanting to avoid injury) absolutely great.

And then, once you are feeling the difference, you can mix it up some more, possibly increase what you do, change intensity or activity. But at the moment, you need to start. And we all know the hardest exercise of all is the putting your kit on in the first place.

worriedaboutfitness · 28/12/2021 09:00

@NeverDropYourMooncup- thank you so much, I really mean that. Walking it through step by step like that is so helpful, makes me feel much less stressed about it all. I am going to do exactly that today, and will report back. Thank you thank you thank you!

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