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International Visitors non vaccinated when pregnant

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anothermonthbitesthedust · 27/12/2021 01:40

I'm 24 weeks pregnant, the pregnancy has not been straight forward but happily Baby and I are relatively healthy but seen by a consultant every 2 weeks.
SIL wants to visit from abroad with 2 unvaccinated children (teenagers) she is an anti vaxxer but has had 3 vaccines herself

They want to come stay with us, straight from the airport before quarantining for 2 days and before 2 day PCR test.
Aibu to not want to share a house with them until they've got negative PCRs?

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PrincessNutella · 27/12/2021 02:03

No! Not unreasonable at all!

Silveroriole · 27/12/2021 04:17

No... You'd bitterly regret it if they were infectious and you caught it. There are enough risks already without adding optional ones.
Stay strong and say no.

HomeTheatreSystem · 27/12/2021 04:35

The airports themselves can be the riskiest part of the journey for catching covid so I would say they can visit 10 days after arrival and with a negative test.

thekissoflife · 27/12/2021 04:43

Not unreasonable. Just say your doctor advised this, and you're taking his/her advice.

timeisnotaline · 27/12/2021 04:51

Absolutely not. I’m 32 weeks pregnant and wouldn’t entertain this idea for a minute.

lap90 · 27/12/2021 05:54

You're not being unreasonable at all. I got a text from track and trace a few weeks ago that i had come into contact with someone with covid... only place it could have been is on my return journey flight.

Rollmopsrule · 27/12/2021 06:01

Yiu do whatever your comfortable with. Definitely not unreasonable. Just wondering how she can be an anti vaxer but has had all three jabs?

SpiderFluff · 27/12/2021 06:07

Just go with what ever you are comfortable with. It's your home

Palmtree9 · 27/12/2021 07:11

Not a chance. Your house, your baby, your rules. I had covid when about 24 weeks pregnant and it wiped me out for weeks, and I seem to have caught every other illness going since!

Bancha · 27/12/2021 07:18

It can be so uncomfortable to say no to people, especially when they act as if you are being uptight and overreacting. I think the thing to keep in mind when you need to stay firm is how you would feel if you caught covid and it harmed your baby. Obviously even if you did catch it, if you’re fully vaccinated you and baby would most likely be fine, so I wouldn’t want you to worry unnecessarily. But, unvaccinated teenagers straight off an aeroplane is a chance that I wouldn’t take with my (uncomplicated so far) pregnancy. Wishing you and your baby all the best.

MrsTerryPratchett · 27/12/2021 07:19

Where are they coming from? Many teenagers have had more than one vaccine, never mind none!

Onaloop · 27/12/2021 07:19

When I was pregnant over the summer I said no to any visitors from abroad (I live abroad from my family so that meant saying no to both sets 9f parents). I had a high risk pregnancy and decided I didn't want the stress

TinyTroubleMaker · 27/12/2021 07:25

If you are vaccinated, why are you bothered whether they are? Your vaccine protects you.

LakieLady · 27/12/2021 07:25

YANBU at all, far from it.

I think you're entirely sensible and reasonable.

MrsTerryPratchett · 27/12/2021 07:27

@TinyTroubleMaker

If you are vaccinated, why are you bothered whether they are? Your vaccine protects you.
My DD got chicken pox even though she had the varicella job. No vaccine is 100%.
LakieLady · 27/12/2021 07:27

@TinyTroubleMaker

If you are vaccinated, why are you bothered whether they are? Your vaccine protects you.
Because existing vaccines don't protect against new variants.

My SIL and BIL are both double vaxxed and had Covid a couple of weeks ago. SIL had had her booster as well, and she was really quite unwell.

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anothermonthbitesthedust · 27/12/2021 08:10

@Rollmopsrule
She is a firm antivaxxer and hasn't given her kids the MMR/HPV etc. she wasn't going to get the covid vaccine but was told she had to get it as she's vulnerable for her own medical condition.
There is no real logic to her thinking

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anothermonthbitesthedust · 27/12/2021 08:14

@TinyTroubleMaker
I had my booster 12 weeks ago as I'm a frontline key worker. And I'm worried about how long the effects of the booster last. Recent murmurings we're 10-12 weeks.

I deal with non vaccinated people regularly at work, but they will always wear masks and I wouldn't have to sit eating across the table in social situations

I just don't want to have to deal with that risk from my own home

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anothermonthbitesthedust · 27/12/2021 08:15

Thanks everyone for the support. I feel husband and in-laws are acting like I'm being a 'hormonal pregnant woman ' rather than a rational woman who can read the government guidelines and expect people to follow them

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MrzClaus · 27/12/2021 08:18

Not sure if it is helpful - the day two PCR test can be done on or before day two - we did ours once landing at the airport and had results back within 3 hours!

BeardieWeirdie · 27/12/2021 08:22

Refusing to be vaccinated is a personal choice. Refusing to have unvaccinated people in your house is yours. Yanbu, stand firm, she’s an idiot.

HomeTheatreSystem · 27/12/2021 08:36

I read this somewhere on here: very apposite when you take a logical well-grounded stance that happens to be inconvenient to other people's desires and wishes:

"Accusing someone who disagrees with you of getting ‘worked up’ is a manipulative trait. It suggests you’re insecure about the fundamental value of your insights."

Raindancer411 · 27/12/2021 08:44

All I can say is if she visits, have you got somewhere to go? I would be worried they would still arrange it behind my back, depending on what sort of people they are.

PAFMO · 27/12/2021 08:49

YANBU.
Don't let them inside your house until after their isolation period is finished.

GoIntoTheLight · 27/12/2021 08:53

She was vaccinated due to her medical condition. So I’m sure she’ll understand that you have to be mindful of your own medical circumstances.

It’s a no way from me!