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To block MIL on social media?

11 replies

Thedramalama · 26/12/2021 20:40

To cut a long and boring story short - I set up an Instagram blog/account last year during lockdown to help with my depression. I kept it anonymous but public (but never reveal my identity) and have always treated it as a hobby as it focuses on a particular passion of mine, interior design. Only my husband and son know about it’s existence. I’ve since gained thousands of followers and get real joy from the community on there, despite everybody being complete strangers.

Fast forward to last week. My son accidentally (not his fault, I never ask him to lie) told my mother in law about it’s existence. She and my father in law have subsequently (immediately) joined Instagram, followed my account and send me daily updates on their thoughts, criticisms and perspective on my posts…Confused

It sounds so petty to moan about this but I should caveat this with the following - once they discovered it and questioned me about it, I made it clear that none of my friends even know about it as it is just a hobby..yet they still both decided to follow me and critique it daily. They are typically nosey people, they are both retired and spend hours on Facebook poring over and gossiping about people (a reason why I left it). They are also very controlling, they like to know everything about everyone’s business, so I did get a huge sinking feeling when they learnt about this. I feel like it’s the equivalent of having a badminton hobby and then my in laws turn up and start shouting at me for how wrong I’m doing it Hmm

I also realise this sounds incredibly petty Grin please don’t flame me. I know there are bigger things going on in the world, my husband thinks I’m being dramatic Blush I probably am. I just feel like I found a lovely hobby that was all mine and my in laws have just stomped all over it. Uh, I’m just looking for advice really. Is blocking a big no-no? x

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tectonicplates · 26/12/2021 20:42

You can block them, but bear in mind they can still view it while logged out. You might want to change your privacy settings to make it friends only.

SoniaFouler · 26/12/2021 20:46

You post on the Internet then it’s public, and if you haven’t changed your privacy settings at all then you have no right to complain that “the public” are viewing things you publicly posted on there.

LunaTheCat · 26/12/2021 20:48

Yep - block them.
I also want to follow you on Instagram!😉
What is your account name?

fourandnomore · 26/12/2021 21:27

Just block them and if they mention it just say you’ve had to adjust your privacy settings, lovely to have something just for you.

Caramellatteplease · 26/12/2021 21:47

Yes to blocking but yes blocking them is fairly pointless unless you have private account

astoundedgoat · 26/12/2021 21:52

They can still view it but crucially they can’t leave the daily comments & critiques, so they are out of the OP’s hair.

If they ask, say that you restrict comments because comments from family members make you identifiable and your privatisation very important to you. pregnant pause

CornforthWhite · 26/12/2021 21:54

Block but you are going to have to change your handle too. Can you do a story to explain the name change? That way they can’t look you up again. Not sure it would work but worth a shot

astoundedgoat · 26/12/2021 22:00

PRVACY. Not privatisation.

LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 26/12/2021 22:22

Yeah block them

I can't comment on Facebook because people you are friends with see it, and my bloody mil kept commenting on it too or mentioning to me in text etc and it was doing my nut in.

MumW · 26/12/2021 22:24

PRVACY. Not privatisation.
Definitely do whatever is necessary to stop them commenting. I suggest anonymity would be a better word than privacy.

autieok · 26/12/2021 22:27

I don't really understand how it works so can't advise, but I feel your pain this is something private to you I would hate it if nlaws got involved particularly if they are critiquing me.

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