To think my friend is going a bit overboard?

[RainbowBriteUk]

I have a friend who I was close with through school. She moved away in her early twenties but we still message each other for a catch up.

She's a lovely woman and in the last few years met a man and is now pregnant with her first child. Since the early days of her pregnancy, she has been posting multiple posts relating to her pregnancy. She's now 38 weeks and it's worse than ever. Posts range from her feeling sick and tired with the pregnancy to photos of scans/new things for the baby. I'm unable to get pregnant and these constant reminders she's having a baby really hurt. I've unfollowed her but AIBU to feel she's totally going overboard and that daily posts are just too much?

I don’t personally feel the need to unload personal stuff on social media, so don’t understand the mentality of someone who does. I agree that it’s insensitive to people who want children but can’t have them or are struggling to conceive.

Well, I say this gently but you are a bit unreasonable here.

It’s understandable you would feel that way as you’re having difficulty conceiving and this is a near-constant reminder.

But she’s happy, she’s excited, maybe she has friends and family who largely communicate on Facebook and she’s keeping them in the loop. It’s not her fault and she’s not doing something wrong by sharing her news and updates.

You’ve done the right thing for your welfare by unfollowing her, and you certainly have no obligation to stay in touch. But try not to be too annoyed with her.

I can see why you are struggling with this but she's clearly just very excited and having a bit of PFB syndrome. Just hide her profile feed from yours.

You were right to unfollow her but tbh its all you can do.

She is probably so excited and this is playing out on social media. She has every right to do this and she hasnt gone overboard or too far.

Unfollow her. Some people get a bit consumed by it all and social media is an outlet for it.

Unfollowing her was the right thing to do. Starting this thread wasn’t as you’re just using it to cling on to the upset. You won’t see her posts anymore, don’t recreate the irritation via this thread.

Why haven’t you unfollowed her? Do it now

Sorry missed the last line 🌺

She isn’t doing anything wrong though. She sounds excited about her pregnancy and wants to share that.

You’ve unfollowed her now which is undoubtedly the best thing for your mental health. Don’t give it further headspace.

YABU. But, that's because it hurts to not be able to conceive when you want a baby. Strong feelings can and DO make us a tad unreasonable.
I feel for you, but you've unfollowed her. Don't stir things up for yourself by needless ruminations and MN threads.

It's none of your business what she posts. You've unfollowed her. Why are you still obsessing over it?

It's up to her what she posts, she's obviously just very excited

YANBU to unfollow her
YABU to tell her to stop posting whatever she likes

I think it’s weird to post about every aspect of your life. I don’t do this but we all are different, It could be her way communicating with relatives or finding support from her friends.
I think you are much more unreasonable then your friend. Does she tag you in her posts? If not they aren’t aim at you personally. Just unfollow her or don’t read them if they are upsetting for you.

YABU
She shouldn't have to change what she posts about her pregnancy for you or anyone else. Where is the line here? As long as people aren't spewing hate speech or anything they should be able to post what they like on their feeds. The unfollow feature is there for situations like this. You've done that so forget about it now.

yabu, she shouldnt have to change herself to accommodate you and your needs. you did the right thing by unfollowing her and im sorry about your problems but shes obviously excited

@PferdeMerde is right. I'm sorry but YABU to think you have a say in what /how often she posts.