AIBU not to send a thank you message in response to a thank you message

[Hippopotas]

I’ve received a message from my mum telling me my aunt is upset at me for not sending a thank you message in response to her thank you message for the present I gave her for Christmas!

For a start the message was a week before Christmas and was a text message read to me on my home phone with no name etc so I had no idea who it was from anyway. Secondly where the hell does it end? Will I then have to say “Thank you for the thank you you sent in response to my thank you for the thank you you gave me for the present!”

Argh!

A normal response would be "you're welcome, merry Christmas" or similar, but not if you don't know who messaged you. Could you not have worked it out?

It could go on forever!

I don’t know. In this country we are very bad at saying “you’re welcome” in general. I lived in Austria for a few years and it really changed the way I view it - genuinely it’s so rude there to not respond “you’re welcome”
If someone says thank you. I think we could do with using “you’re welcome” more! But not sending a thank you back..

Your aunt is silly wanting a thank you for a thank you! As you say - it would never end! Unless your mum is stirring up trouble maybe...?

I don't think it would go on forever if you replied "you're welcome, I'm glad you liked it"...

Surely you'd ask who was thanking you?

I think it would be odd not to just send back a "you're welcome" but equally I probably wouldn't notice if someone didn't .

That’s crackers.

@SunshineCake1

Surely you'd ask who was thanking you?

How with a text message read out in the home phone and no number?

I doubt she wanted you to thank her for her thank you, but it would have been polite to respond. I always respond to a thank you message just with a welcome and happy birthday or whatever.

She obviously didn’t realise that by texting your home phone you wouldn’t know it was from her. So you just tell your mum that you didn’t know she’d messaged you, then send her a message saying something cheerful like “mystery solved! I couldn’t tell who left that message thanking me for the gift, glad you liked it and hope you had a lovely Christmas”. Problem solved.

Oh well both me and my DH must be rude then. I think you are all batshit but hey ho

How with a text message read out in the home phone and no number?

Those messages do tell you which number the message is from. My sister has occasionally text my landline by mistake and the first part of the electronic voice is the number it came from

The message reads out the number but I don't always recognise the number so usually end up trying to frantically scribble it down then going through my contacts to match the number!

Surely you know your aunts phone number. It does tell you who has sent the message.

Um yeah, you are rude. People have taken time from their day to give you advice, and you’ve called us batshit. That’s rude. But hey ho.

@SunshineCake1

Surely you know your aunts phone number. It does tell you who has sent the message.

You mean like off the top of her head?

I don’t know any of my families numbers off the top of my head, even my husbands!

Op, YANBU as you didn’t know who sent the message! Did you tell your mother this?? She IBU expecting you to be a mind reader.

@Hippopotas

Oh well both me and my DH must be rude then. I think you are all batshit but hey ho

judging by this response, yes you are!

😂

I usually respond with "you're welcome" which ends the conversation.

That's what pen and all are is for @VainAbigail when the message states the number.

I might be wrong but I once read that saying thank you in response to a thank you message could lead to an endless chain of thank you messages that relentlessly spiral out of control and threaten the very fabric of the space/time continuum.

@GirlDinosaur 🤣🤣

Oh well both me and my DH must be rude then. I think you are all batshit but hey ho

You're welcome. 😃😃😃