To not want to move house?

[Greenandbluetartan]

Bit of a stupid thread but here goes.

House put up for sale, full asking price, have another house - bigger and more suitable and lovely.

And I don’t want to move.

I love our village. I love our home. Love our church, the primary school.

I’m being stupid aren’t I!

But why did you put it on the market?!

Why did you look for somewhere new then? There must’ve been a reason to sell up?

Well no, you’re not being stupid. Bigger isn’t necessarily better.

We needed somewhere bigger, with a garden (only have small patio / yard at the moment) and DH is working from home and it’s very difficult in current house. Just feel really sad about it. These are all good practical reasons to move but my heart is sad.

I think it’s a natural to feel an emotional connection to your home with a lot of memories there, and feel a bit sad you’re leaving it even if it’s the right move for you and your family.

Is your church close enough that you can travel to it? New, bigger house will become home too eventually 😊

Just think how much easier life will be in the more suitable house, the new memories you can create and the happy times you'll have as a family in a place that fits your needs better!

I've got that feeling. I'm moving from rented to one I am buying though - which is the driver for the move. TBH I could have bought sooner, but I love the cottage I am renting and the village I am in. There has been nothing suitable to buy in the village I am currently in, so moving to another village which is fine, but further out and not THIS one, and to a very sensible modern home, rather than a cute not-quite-chocolate box cottage. It's the sensible and most affordable thing to do, but I will miss this place!

I wouldn’t totally dismiss your reluctance to move. It seems to me that you are now identifying location as being of more importance than you did when you looked for a new place. Maybe, despite that realisation, the new place is better overall. But maybe not.

Is it al all feasible that you could find a bigger home that you could afford in the village you love? Or an office close by for DH to work from instead of moving? Or some other solution that would keep the value of location and any relationships you’ve built?