So annoyed with myself for not saying something!

[Confusedpapoose]

Out for a walk today, spot a couple with a chihuahua-sized dog clearly (I think, unless it was a girl dog squatting for a while?) doing a poo, then they try to sort of scurry off. I should have in that moment said “excuse me, do you need a poo bag?” But I sort of missed my window and I just absolutely hate conflict so I just didn’t say anything but ever since then I’ve been so annoyed with myself for not saying anything 😩 I don’t know why I’m so hung up on it, I can’t change the situation now. Maybe I’m just worried that I’ll never speak up about anything in future, and that worries me. I also hate when people don’t have/face comeuppances, it’s a pet peeve of mine so I’m pissed that these people just “got away with it”.

Just wanting to vent my annoyance with myself :(

Yeah if I were you, I wouldn't make a tit out of yourself considering you have no idea if the dog was just weeing.

Honestly, sometimes my dog squats down so long when she's weeing, me and DH get embarrassed and actually pretend we're picking up poo if we think someone's looking over.

Sometimes dogs squat and strain and nothing comes out. My dog does this a lot. I wouldn't give this any more headspace.

(A poo position is really different to a wee position)

But anyway the result of you tackling people who are happy to leave poo would most likely be to tell you to fuck off. So best not to engage IMO

At least the poo from such a tiny dog is not much.

@gsaoej

(A poo position is really different to a wee position)

But anyway the result of you tackling people who are happy to leave poo would most likely be to tell you to fuck off. So best not to engage IMO

At least the poo from such a tiny dog is not much.

(A poo position is really different to a wee position)

No it isn't with my dog.

In fact she squats down and faffs about for ages before she gets comfortable.

But the position is exactly the same.

In the grand scheme of life what does it matter? This is really not one of those situations where you kick yourself for not speaking up I promise you!

If you normally avoid conflict then a solo woman challenging a couple about something as innocuous as dog poo (when you're not actually sure that's what happened) would be foolish and most likely lead to you feeling bad about it for the rest of the day. Save it for something that really matters OP! This really doesn't.

Did you see if there was a log?

YANBU, I do actually speak up now but I suspect it’s because I’m in my late 30s now and just don’t worry about being ‘confrontational’ anymore.

@WorraLiberty

Yeah if I were you, I wouldn't make a tit out of yourself considering you have no idea if the dog was just weeing.

Honestly, sometimes my dog squats down so long when she's weeing, me and DH get embarrassed and actually pretend we're picking up poo if we think someone's looking over.

I’ve done this. My old dog had digestive issues and basically used to piss out of his arse, there was no chance of bagging it up. One of the dogs I’ve got now constantly goes to take a dump and then gets distracted and stands back up. During both scenarios I can see/feel people looking at me so I actually pretend to pick up the non existent shit

Yes, it’s exactly the same faff and position for my dog as well. She’s a medium sized broad chested dog.

Because of this, I worry that people will think the same as OP so I have an out loud chat to her about what a big wee she’s done. But then I am completely mental, admittedly.

@Aubriella

Did you see if there was a log?

YANBU, I do actually speak up now but I suspect it’s because I’m in my late 30s now and just don’t worry about being ‘confrontational’ anymore.

This is the first time I have laughed today! Thanks~ ''Did you see a dog Log?'' I too dislike it when people pretend not to see the ''Log'' exiting a dog they are in charge of, and I always make a point of exaggerating the movements of withdrawing a bag and flapping it open to pick up a poo that exits from our smallish dog {Thankfully a small bore bottom} in case they think I'm going to leave the log lying there.

You're disappointed with yourself that you weren't unnecessarily passive aggressive and hostile to a stranger for no reason? No, I think you should be proud of this fact. I cringed even reading the 'excuse me, do you need a poo bag?' comment! It would have been just so rude and uncalled for, and you don't even know if the dog had pooed!!

@oakleaffy

This is the first time I have laughed today!
Thanks~
''Did you see a dog Log?''
I too dislike it when people pretend not to see the ''Log'' exiting a dog they are in charge of, and I always make a point of exaggerating the movements of withdrawing a bag and flapping it open to pick up a poo that exits from our smallish dog {Thankfully a small bore bottom} in case they think I'm going to leave the log lying there.

Glad I made you laugh oak

My chihuahua bitch squats for a wee and looks like a baby kangaroo sitting when having a poo hth

Forgive yourself. Move on.

Ooorrr this is my fear though,

One of my dogs often has a dodgy tum, she’ll do her business and I’ll clean up but then she’ll squat around for another 2/3 times with tiny bits of water. Sorry TMI but it’s nothing you can pick up.

Sometimes she’ll do this in the middle of a field or park and I can see that there’s nothing to pick up but I’m always scared that someone will harass me or scream at me for not picking up after her.

It really causes me anxiety! I often fake pick up but sometimes I’ve ran out of bags and she does it and then I’ll start sweating