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No gravy with Christmas dinner 😱 AIBU?! (Lighthearted!)

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TheGarbageManCan · 25/12/2021 18:33

No gravy… been with DH for nearly 11 years and married 6.5. Am sure I’ve had multiple roasts here before and at least 2 Christmas dinner before this. I know they aren’t a big fan of gravy but I’m positive they’d have made it before?

SACRILEGE I tell you - although MIL has been on the sauce all day and the turkey was delicious!

What’s have you missed today??

OP posts:
mumda · 25/12/2021 21:47

Do they only have gravy with beef and lamb but not any poultry?

My in-laws do this and it was just very odd to discover they eat turkey and chicken without gravy.

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TheGarbageManCan · 25/12/2021 23:19

@mumda that’s a possibility… they are def more of a red meat family.

I was just a bit like “eh?!!!” but would never say!

MIL is a good cook but has def lost confidence with multiple lockdowns etc. I don’t really use recipes whereas she does, and I’ve just stripped the turkey for her as she was a bit daunted by it, took off what was left of the crown and all the brown meat. She won’t use the carcass for stock, but to be fair not sure I would with turkey. But then I don’t think I’d cook a turkey 😂 she’s kept the meat juices but I don’t know what for. NOT GRAVY!!!

I’d have been happy with some bistro!!

DH almost always takes his gravy in a ramekin. Me and DD (5) love gravy. I’ve taught her well at least 😂

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Whambamthankyoumaam21 · 25/12/2021 23:39

We had our meal out today- it had cress as a topping. Don’t get me wrong, Was lovely. But cress Confused

No gravy with Christmas dinner 😱 AIBU?! (Lighthearted!)
LittleRoundRobin · 25/12/2021 23:46

YANBU. I'd struggle to eat it without gravy tbh. Turkey is as dry as a skeleton's minge.

HelloBunny · 25/12/2021 23:54

It’s all about the gravy / stuffing combo, for me. I remember my first Christmas in the UK, and bread sauce being served by my then-boyfriend’s mother. I think I tasted it with a teaspoon, but I haven’t encountered it since...

MrsToothyBitch · 26/12/2021 00:04

YANBU. I won't really touch a roast at all without gravy. Sacrilege! Might pick at a few trimmings but would struggle to properly dig in - and never a turkey roast, yuck yuck yuck. I only really eat my mum's roasts tbh anyway. She makes her gravy properly with gravy salts and I just never really enjoy other people's versions of a roast as much. Especially the gravy Sad.

Then again- we probably all feel like that about "our" roasts!

Mookie81 · 26/12/2021 01:59

@Whambamthankyoumaam21

We had our meal out today- it had cress as a topping. Don’t get me wrong, Was lovely. But cress Confused
That brown lake is not gravy, it needs to be thick enough to stick to the spoon! Xmas Grin
Monty27 · 26/12/2021 02:04

My daughter cooked beef wellington at hers and the roast potatoes. Gravy and trimmings were my responsibility exactly on time.
No juices for gravy and I had no option other than to get the bisto granules out 😳

Monty27 · 26/12/2021 02:07

The potatoes and beef were brought to my house already cooked I mean 🙄🎄

ElEmEnOhPee · 26/12/2021 03:06

The only reason YABU is because you claimed this is light-hearted. There is NOTHING light-hearted about no gravy on a roast dinner. Reminds me of Christmas dinner 2019 when my mum forgot mint sauce, I brought my own this year because I couldn't go through that again.

RoyalFamilyFan · 26/12/2021 03:09

I never had gravy growing up and don't make it now. DP makes his own.

KloppsTeeth · 26/12/2021 03:22

No gravy?! 😲

Monty27 · 26/12/2021 04:21

@KloppsTeeth

No gravy?! 😲
Zero gravy Bisto granules on Christmas day wta? I'm devastated
NotanotherboxofFrogs · 26/12/2021 05:15

Couldn't eat without the gravy, my dinner was swimming in pools of it.

However I forgot the mash potatoes, I buy the bags of mash by aunt Bessie but had roasties, croquettes and all our full range of sides despite being alone due to a last minute change of plans

merryxmasmelodies · 26/12/2021 05:32

Turkey dinner HAS to have gravy! And stuffing. And potatoes, either roasted or mashed.

KatherineJaneway · 26/12/2021 07:51

That's awful, must have been terribly dry Xmas Sad

There are some dishes I won't automatically make such a cauliflower cheese, red cabbage, bread sauce but if I knew a guest loved them I would add them into the meal.

Weenurse · 26/12/2021 08:03

First roast I ever had with DH family, no gravy.
DH and FIL didn’t eat it so MIL gave up making it.
Newlyweds and made a roast for BIL, did not make gravy as per his family’s tradition. BIL asked for gravy (SIL had introduced him to it). Ever since then I have added the things I like when I cook.
FIL was responsible for turkey yesterday and he made sure we had gravy!

Aprilx · 26/12/2021 08:09

I swapped gravy yesterday for a port, red wine and date sauce. I was very worried that I would have ruined the meal with no regular gravy but it turned out well. Phew.

boysarethebest · 26/12/2021 08:14

Gravy is disgusting. I never understand why anyone wants to ruin a delicious roast with so many different tastes and textures by pouring brown liquid over it. Makes everything soggy and then it all tastes the same, euuurgh

RockallMalinHebrides · 26/12/2021 09:00

We had 3 gravies - beef, turkey and bistro (for the youngest child).

MrsToothyBitch · 26/12/2021 09:46

@boysarethebest

Gravy is disgusting. I never understand why anyone wants to ruin a delicious roast with so many different tastes and textures by pouring brown liquid over it. Makes everything soggy and then it all tastes the same, euuurgh
I only eat veg with anything if there's sauce of some sort in the meal to smother on them to make them edible! Decent gravy crowns a roast for me.
MarshmallowFondant · 26/12/2021 10:12

Worst Christmas dinner ever was at the inlaws, several years ago.

Turkey cooked on Christmas Eve according to instructions plus "another hour because you can't be too careful can you?" Served dry, cold and cardboard-y on Christmas Day.

Vegetables started cooking around 10am to eat at 1pm. Served as grey mush.

Gravy was bisto beef gravy granules, made so thick you cut a slice rather than pouring.

No bread sauce - asked MIL and response was "FIL doesn't like it". Never mind the other 7 of us then.

Too much shit in the fridge so Prosecco, beer and soft drinks stored beside the radiator to get nice and warm.

Dessert was a "gorgeous" 99p Iceland mandarin cheesecake.

80sMum · 26/12/2021 10:34

Oh dear! That's an unfortunate omission!
I honestly would have difficulty swallowing a roast dinner without gravy or some other sort of liquid sauce on it.

When I was young, my mother used to make proper gravy from the meat juices in the roasting tin but after I left home she, for some inexplicable reason, started making "gravy" with boiling water and an Oxo cube! It was just brown, salty water really and very unappetising - but nobody complained!

mumda · 26/12/2021 11:32

I do wonder if there's a "not liking gravy on poultry" gene. @TheGarbageManCan

onedayoranother · 26/12/2021 11:36

I don't really like gravy but had it. I'm the only one who likes bread sauce but I don't care I make it just for me.