Sorry for not so cheerful Christmas post. We've actually spent the whole Christmas at home this year, just me dp and dc. It's been really nice. We have just had covid and although out of isolation we didn't feel like travelling around to visit everyone. Christmas at the in laws seems quite chilled but my family is a different story.
Anyway, back to the point. I grew up in a family where arguments and fighting were quite common even more so at Christmas . My mum has brothers and they have to spend Christmas together every year despite not getting on at all in the same room. My mum is really close to my grandma and my uncles have nowhere else to go apart from my grandmas as they are single and their children live miles away with their mothers. There's always something that triggers it.
There are fall outs most years now still. I'm not talking about just little arguments or debates around the table. I mean proper almost violent fall outs where everyone storms off and doesn't spend for days or weeks. Things smashed up and presents abandoned. I've seen them swing at each other before. I'm the meats violent aggressive person you could meet - somehow after witnessing this s**t since I was little. I think it's a problem all the time but just gets heightened at Christmas
I haven't actually spent Christmas at my mums for a few years now we often visit before Christmas. Because I find it too much. It just all escalates. I feel stuck in the middle as I love my mum but at the same time I know how much hard work she is and is often the ring leader. I do get on with my uncles generally.
I'm not even there and I feel involved today. Family member has rang telling me all about it. Didn't want to know tbh as it's not new and my children were listening in which I wasn't comfortable with. Expecting me to take sides and I just can't. All as bad as each other. My grandma is so upset and my grandpa would hate all of it.
I like my family members individually but not all together.
It's put me in a shit mood and I'm not even there.
I would have been blissfully unaware if they didn't ring to tell me.
It's always drama drama and I'm sick of it!
Not sure what the point of this post is. I just feel crap. Come from the most unconventional family ever.
Feels like an episode of EastEnders 🤯
I just want to shelter my kids from it too. We aren't a perfect family ourselves but not as bad as that lot!