AIBU to ask if anyone is spending Christmas with thier ex?

[Undecidedandtorn]

I realise its not for everyone and almost impossible if you have children from a different relationship but surely it's not just me spending Christmas day with my ex and our children?

Yes, I am. It’s best for the children and neither of us really want to alternate

No new partners here. Not sure what either of us would do if we weren’t spending it together. Definitely no blurred boundaries though.

I did. Gave him a key so he could let himself in at 6am so he could be there to see DSs reaction when he wake up and saw the presents. We had breakfast and lunch together and he left around 4. Neither of us have any family around so if we hadnt been together we would have just been on our own.

Me, today, at the children's request (they are adults or nearly adults).

It has been hideous.

Never, ever again.

I did this - we're recently separated and he's yet to move out.

He was even more miserable and charmless than usual, disappeared off to another room for hours and after I cooked everything on my own for 3 hours ("this is your circus, not mine") he ate three spoonfuls of food and left the rest. Bastard. Never again.

3 hours first thing while he was waiting to go on a pub crawl to all the local pubs that would open today.

Yes. Split 4 years ago but we still get together for a few hours to open presents with our teens.

No.

He called me an evil woman on Xmas Eve and I had to call 101 (abusive marriage).

So no, I did not spend Xmas day amicably sharing Xmas lunch with him.

My bf spent a chunk of the day with his ex and kids, they get on fine and it's only the second Christmas since they split. Probably the same next year. I'm in no hurry, we're in our 50s and I don't really want to take on a whole new extended family, I'd rather remain in the background on these days.

Me. We both have other partners. Been separated 7 years. So 5 of us today.

Yes we spend it together, we're best mates.

My Christmas was spent with

Partner
Daughter
Her dad (my ex)
Son
Son’s partner
My brother
Two dogs

Separated from DD’s dad when she was 4. She’s 12 now and has never had a Christmas without him. Some years were difficult but now it works fine. He and my partner like each other, and while he was a terrible partner to me, he’s a good friend, and a good dad, and that means everything. So I count myself very lucky.

My Ex-H spends Christmas Day with us. Split up 12 years ago and get on pretty well. Probably helps that we are both single, but it wouldn’t bother me if he had a girlfriend. Our DS comes first.

He comes round about 11ish, after DS has opened his presents from me. I make bacon butties and leave them to do present opening. DS goes down to his Nanna and Grandads for an hour while we sort out our meal and Ex-H goes home around 9ish.

Very calm and stress free day. I am NC with my family and his live down south, so our Christmas day is actually quite nice.

Yes, we do, we get on fine.

Been nice to see other people have made it work even with other partners around. I'm sorry if anyone felt I was being snippy - of course there would be lots of completely justified reasons why lots of people wouldn't do this.