Does it matter if my bf does this with my art

[Maddymorphosis]

I really like drawing, and have been doing it for a couple of years now.
I think i realised that I am nowhere near as good as I thought I was, but that's ok.

Sometimes when I'm drawing, my partner who I live with will make comments and try and edit my drawings.

I don't necessarily ask for his feedback either. Last night I was drawing a well-known singer and he said 'You've done the nose wrong'

Then 'his face isn't meant to look like that'

'I don't think that's quite how it is'

He took a pencil and almost started trying to take over but I batted his hand away and told him to leave me to do it how I wanted.

Then he said to me that I 'have the potential to be good at drawing' which hurt a bit.

And he will describe completed drawings as 'a start'.

He does art himself as a hobby.
He told me he's 'just trying to help' but sometimes it just makes me feel bad.

It doesn't matter if he doesn't like it, I know, I only do it for me.

I have another friend who is a professional artist and designer. I had been on holiday and taken photos, put them online. Without me saying anything she said "You're much better at taking photos than you used to be!"
It seemed a bit of a backhanded compliment and I hadn't really asked for such an opinion.

Am I being too sensitive? I don't think I'd have the gumption to make such comments, I'd try to give constructive feedback if asked for it but also to be positive.

I'd struggle to tell dp his art was good if it was actually terrible. I think I could keep quiet if he told me to though. But wouldn't you just know what he was thinking anyway? Difficult. I always like honesty from partners even if it hurts a bit. Presumably he tells you what you are good at too?

Your boyfriend sounds like an arrogant arse.

💯 agree

Get angry next time and tell him to get his grubby hands off your work. Or mess around and correct his drawings, see how he likes it.

I had an ex boyfriend who would laugh every time i sang in the car or around the house. I love singing, I've never had any formal training and I'm not amazing but i don't sound too bad and i am in tune and in the right key most of the time. I get a lot of joy out of it. He would do his best to make me feel shit about singing until eventually i stopped all together. That's what he wanted cos he was an arsehole. Now i often sing along with my husband who plays an instrument and he thinks my singing is great. I wouldn't go that far but I'm glad I'm with someone who builds me up instead of tearing me down.

The boyfriend is definitely being an arse, that sort of thing would make someone give up altogether. Would he have reason to make you give up?

The friend sounds like they were being complimentary but it didn't quite come out right.

I'd struggle to tell dp his art was good if it was actually terrible.

It doesn’t sound like the OP is asking for his opinion though, he should just leave her to enjoy her drawing, there’s no need to comment at all.

Your byfriend is not much of an artist if he lets his ego run away with him like that. He also seems to be unfamiliar with the concept of constructive criticism and that it should only be provided when asked.

He sounds like a knob
Don’t let anyone belittle you like this