Partner in a mood

[Angelica122345]

It’s my birthday , he’s been in a mood all day . I went out with my sister tonight . Came back home he said he had a headache . I asked him do u want me to get you anything? He told me to F off

If my DH says ‘fuck off’ to me I’d do exactly that and leave him to it. Like others have said I’d pack up the food and presents and go.

@Tabbacus

Dh gets in a mood every Christmas eve, he has never told me to fuck off (you deserve better than someone who treats you like that), but he's oh so tired, can't possibly help tidy, put the presents out, help with dinner or anything else. The sighing drives me absolutely mad.

I have a dh the same as this and the same the day before a holiday.

Hates helping at those times and huffs and puffs like a teenager.

It’s embarrassing and makes him look like a right prat, but he doesn’t seem to care.

He’s a loser.

Leave him to his misery and go back out with your sister

Do u think it’s me ?

Really OP, did you actually read any of the responses?

Does his moods coincide with you having fun without him?

Happy Birthday
Fuck off and ltb

Yes if I go out which is a rare ocassion

@Angelica122345

Yes if I go out which is a rare ocassion

So here we have it. He gets in a mood when you go out. So you go out rarely. Here's what happens next:

You go out less and less because you know he will be in a mood if you do. You will gradually lose your friends and your social network. Then his behaviour will get worse.

This is the start, OP. This is deliberate, controlling behaviour from him. Get out of this relationship. Men like him do not change except for the worse.

It's not you. It's him.

Oh so he one of those, purposefully ruins special occasions. my ex used to do this, every single occasion he is sat there with a face like thunder, being in a bad mood but not telling me why. Abs yes often telling me to fuck off for no reason, or not reason that he knew he could justify.

He didn’t like you going out, or having fun. Wants to put you back in your place as lesser to him.

Ltb. You’re live will be sooo much better without him.

Life

@Angelica122345

Do u think it’s me ?

No It's him He's told you to fuck off So if you have somewhere to go then literally fuck off I wouldnt be pussyfooting around someone who was that vile to me, at any time and especially on my birthday Just go, play him at his own game He's already got in your head now, you're questioning yourself and thinking it's your fault It's not and it never will be Seriously have a good think about this so called relationship

@Angelica122345

Do u think it’s me ?

No, it's him.

He wants all your attention on him, even on your birthday. He clearly doesn't like you enjoying yourself without him.

I had one like this. Had, not have.

Happy birthday from one Xmas Eve baby to another. And from someone who has a DH who spent the day trying to make sure I had a nice time (which isnt easy on Xmas Eve when you have a meal for 20 to prep for tomorrow) your partner does not seem like someone who wants you to have a nice time. Why? Is it worth it for you? You are as important as him, does he think this?

It is important to be in a relationship with someone who treats you with love and respect. My Dad calls it cherishing. Does your partner cherish you? If he doesnt it might be time to call it quits so you can find someone who will.

Pointy has it spot on. He uses his awful behaviour against you so you don't go out and do what you want to do.

Pack a bag and get out of there.

Is this really all you want?

A nasty, abusive arsehole?

Get out before you make the HUGE mistake and get pregnant.