Pushing in or not?

[united4ever]

So I waited in the queue for 10 minutes to get in a cheesemonger. Got in and bought a few things. Within 10 seconds of exiting I realised I forgot the main thing I came for. I went straight back in the shop and bought it. Few sarcy comments on the way out. Should I have gone to back of line?

I did ask the cheesemonger who just served me if he wants me to go to back of line but he said don't do that and served me within a minute.

AIBU

It was pushing in but the comments should've been aimed at the cheese seller.

I would have giggled at you, I always forget something too.

I’d have gone to the back but otoh I would not have judged you if you didn’t (and asked, and were quick). Probably because I wouldn’t have wanted to risk the wrath of a bunch of randoms id never see again…

Honestly wouldn’t have bothered me.

I don’t think ive ever been into a cheesemonger 🥴

Pushed in. Next in the queue was no longer next in the queue.

I wouldn't have been that bothered tbf, but that doesn't mean it's not queue jumping.

@Nesbo

In my opinion if you really think someone who honestly forgot something and realised just as they were leaving the shop ought to go to the back and queue all over again you’re a bit of a twat.

Why can’t people just be pleasant to each other rather than approaching everything like it’s one big kill or be killed competition.

And at fucking Christmas as well when you’re supposed to be showing goodwill to people.

That's all well and good unless she takes the last brie wheel

I think it's fine, I wouldn't have minded you going back in. People are just arseholes!

I've envious that you live somewhere with a cheese monger

I'd have gone to the back of the queue or (more likely) decided to manage without the forgotten item.

If someone had pushed in in front of me like that I'd have said of course that's fine, but I'd be thinking you were rude. It's not my fault you forgot and now I'm waiting while he serves an extra customer.

How did the people in the queue know you were only going back in for one thing though?

I do think as you had actually left the store it was a bit rude, I wouldn't have said anything or given you the looks some people have though, I would just have been silently annoyed a little bit then forgotten it 5mins later

It was your fault so I’d say that yes, you were wrong to push in. If the cheesemonger had made a mistake such as leaving something off the order or giving the wrong quantity/ change etc then you would be justified to go to the front of the queue to rectify it, but essentially you were approaching the queue with a new order that would be no quicker to process than anybody else’s purchase so you should have gone to the back.

I'd have gone to the back of the queue

It's pushing in - I'm not surprised they were sarky

I don’t care and I don’t think you should either, o would have said to person behind me that I’d forgotten something and say sorry then tell server

You queue jumped.

@Nesbo

In my opinion if you really think someone who honestly forgot something and realised just as they were leaving the shop ought to go to the back and queue all over again you’re a bit of a twat.

Why can’t people just be pleasant to each other rather than approaching everything like it’s one big kill or be killed competition.

And at fucking Christmas as well when you’re supposed to be showing goodwill to people.

This, completely. We can all forget something, we're human! I'm quite skittish at times, worse as I'm getting older (just hit the big 50) and at times I've explained nicely I'd forgotten one thing and asked if I could pop back to the front and never been huffed at. We're here to help each other, especially this time of year.

I have a DC with unseen SEN so maybe I'm immune to stares and tutting as I'm often in the position where I need to apologise or explain behaviour.

You pushed in.

Disappointing lack of cheese puns on this thread!

Don't think it's a big deal but

@DickMabutt73962

Don't think it's a big deal but

Didn't mean to add 'but'

Of course it’s not unreasonable, you and your time is clearly more important than those queuing.

Yes that is pushing in. If I were in the queue, you coming back would have exactly the same impact on me (i.e. extending my wait) as a brand new person walking in and going straight to the front. Of course the shop assistant wasn’t going to make you go to the back of the queue, it doesn’t matter to them.

I would not have batted an eyelid!

If you'd already left the shop you pushed in. If I'd been in the queue I'd have called you lots of rude names but only in my head cos Christmas and all that.

That is full on pushing in.
If as and example you stepped outside and found they’d forgotten to put something in the bag or some other error on their part then what you did could be ok (depending on queue length and make-up).
However this was your mistake so should have gone to the back of the queue.