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Would you isolate to spend time with your kids at Christmas?

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Wickertoilet · 23/12/2021 23:09

Looking to get a wider opinion on this.

Resident parent tests positive on a lft Tuesday, does PCR within the hour. Let's NRP know of potential disruption to Christmas plans.

NRP says will still like to see children, will isolate, would like them extra (is off work over the period). This is against the official rules, but if both parents isolate the 10 days within their own household its causing no extra exposure. RP agrees. Suggests extra days NRP can have them so that neither parent is on their own long periods of time, children are looked after and see both parents and RP who has covid and symptoms can rest.
Suddenly, despite saying they would isolate, NRP cannot do specific days. Not working, as previously said. Can only have them extra on specific days, despite repeatedly saying they'd isolate.

PCR positive notification today. RP tests children, both positive but asymptomatic. NRP decides that they will follow the government guidance after all and not take them. Which is the rule after all. RP is pretty ill and now cancelling two weeks worth of plans. Upset children.

Would you isolate yourself to spend time with your children over Christmas, or would you follow the rules? I can't imagine not spending Christmas with My (very young) children. It made me sad for them to be honest, despite it being the rules technically, that NRP wouldn't like them for way more time than normal. Not everyone thinks like me of course, but I'd do it in a heartbeat.

Bitter divorce, in case you can't tell 😒 probably clouds my judgement somewhat.

OP posts:
KellyJonesLeatherTrousers · 24/12/2021 06:57

As the kids have now tested positive, it’s pretty immaterial at this point that the NRP changed their mind about how much they would have them as they should now stay with the RP throughout the isolation period, however shitty that is (hope you’re all feeling ok).

In my experience, better in the long run in terms of stress/heartache to expect the minimum agreed arrangements. NRP clearly feels that they can withdraw any offers of extra contact at any point so for your own sanity, stick to the agreed arrangement and keep NRP to it.

whyohwhyohwhyohwhywhy · 24/12/2021 07:02

What do you mean? See the children and then isolate after? How long would theyy see the children for?
If the children were just positive it is 7/10 days for them and then what - another 7/10 days in isolation? I am not sure I would choose to do that, no

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