DH not bought me a present...

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But I've spent a fair bit on him on things he doesn't need but I know he will definitely like and use, plus some odds and sods.

Pretty easy for me, I have amazon prime and he's expressed a desire for these things.

Me on the other hand..... Fucking awkward. There's nothing I really need, clothes are a big no as I'm overweight and awkward size. He also won't have had time to go shopping.

What do I Want? A faberge ring, but they are wwwwaaaaaayyyy beyond budget and I'd be horrified actually. Alternatively a silver ring with amber.

I don't want last munite panic bought shite either. No perfume, no shit quality smelliest, no slippers etc.

I did ask for panniers for my bike but I don't think he took the hint and commented that it's not for me, not personal.

So I get it, I'm impossible to buy for.

So how do I stop it being awkward?

He sounds pretty hopeless to me and I think I recognise your name and he's been on and off hopeless in varying respects for years

It's just rude and thoughtless, no matter how you dress it up. Most people like a book or chocolate or a bottle of something nice, this stuff isn't difficult. He just chooses not to do it

So I would be making him feel bloody awkward in advance tbh.

Every year I say that I’d be delighted with Dairy Milk and gin. And I so would. I’m lucky and usually get that and more. But I am genuinely delighted to have DM and gin. If I want something that bad I will buy it myself. Your OH isnt not a mind reader. Either tell him or stop being disappointed that he doesn’t know what you do not know what you want.

Genuinely confused....

It's your fault he hasn't bought you anything?
But you're all 'dying swan' over it?

Are you upset or are you ok with it?
You can't be both

I don't understand your post at all. You say you are awkward to buy for, yet you want him to 'master Amazon Prime' I mean its not tricky, Amazon is it?? If there is something you want then just tell him, stop being a dick about it, or as someone up thread says Dying Swan

Not the point but I’ve just googled Faberge rings and I want this one so much www.chisholmhunter.co.uk/faberg-eacute-colours-of-love-rose-gold-ruby-eternity-ring-847rg1753-104.html?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIpsyI8_769AIVBM53Ch1tXwQVEAQYBSABEgIrvvD_BwE

I don’t understand why you are feeling guilty that he hasn’t bought you anything and acting like that’s somehow your fault. Give him his present on Christmas Day and then let him feel awkward when he doesn’t have anything to give in return, he should feel bloody awkward, perhaps that’ll make him try harder next time.

@StruggleStreet it's beautiful isn't it, I want the one with the rainbow stones. Ridiculous amount of money though I'd be fucking mortified if he bought it, which he won't as he can't afford it but that would be my lottery win treat.

Am I being a dying Swan? I don't think I am. I don't want him to feel crap is all, he's a good egg, just shit at presents

My husband has bought me panniers for Christmas get the panniers! And the ring ;)

@Shortpoet

As side note you can share your Amazon prime membership with him. So in future he really has no excuse.

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Missing the point of the thread but thank you for this, I never realised!

He does use my amazon account but rarely buys anything from them, however its just dawned on me he has the password - ooops. Thankfully the 'big' presents weren't amazon so he will think hes got socks and a pair of crocs slippers.... He very unlikely to check though.

So he called me in a tizz earlier what do I want 😱. I told him not to get me anything, I said I'd like a ring but want to choose it myself so that's the plan. Win

The Fabergé in London exhibition is on at the Victoria & Albert museum untill March. Why not book a couple of tickets online to go and see it - he can throw in the exhibition book too.

Omg really?? I am definitely demanding tickets for that, he can buy me a ring as a souvenir

I’m pretty hard to buy for, I’m not really picky, just not at all materialistic and really don’t appreciate being bought something for the sake of being bought something. I usually get myself something, pay from joint account and hand it to husband and tell him it’s my Christmas present. Simple. This year I have new trainers. Last year I had a purse. Never disappointed. Absolutely detest surprises anyway.

I’m getting god knows what shite for Christmas from DH this year - it can’t possibly be any worse than last year can it?

In October he asked me what I wanted so I said a new cover for my iPad; he asks the model so I tell him. Come Christmas Day, I open a personalised iPad cover with a picture of DTs on it and my name embossed in gold on the front - in a size for the wrong iPad (he got an iPad 4 case not an iPad mini 4 - it’s really not that difficult to tell them apart!) First suggestion is can’t I just use it anyway as, surely there can’t be much difference in size? So I prove it’s impossible; then he suggests buying an iPad 4 just so the case isn’t wasted (but you can only buy reconditioned ones now and they’re just not worth the money simply to make a case usable!) then he says he’ll get them to change it - till I point out, being personalised, it would be no exchange/no refund.

Then, beginning of this week was my 50th birthday. In October I sent him the details of something I’d like complete with the link to choose from 4 possible options - all he needed to do was click on one, add it to the basket and then buy it. But no that’s too easy so, 3 days before my birthday, he orders what he thinks I asked for from Amazon, spending way more than the items I’d linked to and it’s completely the wrong item so I made him send it back for a refund as there is no point in spending good money on something I don’t want and ignoring the item I want. Now he claims to have bought the ‘right one’ for me for Christmas - but there’s no telling if or when it will arrive so, for the second year in a row, I’ll be opening crap from Poundland for my Christmas presents as that’s all he’s got - oh, and I was there when he bought it all so it’s not even a bloody surprise!!