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Too feel sad for DS?

28 replies

Hamjamwich · 23/12/2021 19:54

I've just asked my SIL and brother to meet up anytime over Xmas and new year. Any place of their choice, inexpensive pub meal or similar. SIL and BIL are off work for 2 weeks. We live 2 miles away. DS has said he misses family activities from lockdowns and asked if we could all meet up for a meal.
SIL reply was a blunt "no thanks"

OP posts:
Thesearmsofmine · 23/12/2021 19:56

Is there some background here? Do you usually get on?

SleighbellsZ · 23/12/2021 19:56

Back story?

NatriumChloride · 23/12/2021 19:59

Waiting for the drip feed…

IAmMeThisIsI · 23/12/2021 20:00

You should have asked your brother directly. Unless there's a massive background story then she's being extremely rude.

DroopyClematis · 23/12/2021 20:02

They clearly have a reason to not meet up.
Do you know why by any chance?

leccybill · 23/12/2021 20:04

Covid-related? I've said no to a few social things.

AnneLovesGilbert · 23/12/2021 20:05

Why did she say that?

How often do you usually see them?

RoastedParsnips · 23/12/2021 20:07

What'd you do to offend them? Don't drip feed.

Lindy2 · 23/12/2021 20:09

I wouldn't be meeting anyone inside a pub right now. A lot of people I know are back to limiting contacts or only meeting outside.

Is it because of Covid worries she's said no? If so could you suggest an outdoor meeting.

If she just doesn't want to see you then obviously that's a whole different matter.

Winterspangles · 23/12/2021 20:10

Sil is a dick.

Whatever blah blah reason she has, she could be kindly about it.

Theunamedcat · 23/12/2021 20:11

How unkind

cansu · 23/12/2021 20:14

You should have just asked them over for drinks and cake one evening after xmas.

Goldbar · 23/12/2021 20:16

I'd ask your brother directly and make it an outdoor activity - walk plus coffee or forest playground or something like that. Say his nephew would love to see him.

Freddiefox · 23/12/2021 20:42

Hmm( there has to be more to it. Have you asked your db

Hellocatshome · 23/12/2021 20:44

Dkes your brother not buy your DS a Christmas present? Will he be dropping it off? Invite them in for a drink and a mince pie or ask if they want to go for a walk in whatever nearby beauty spot/Park you have. I would speak to your brother directly.

StFrancisdeCompostela · 23/12/2021 20:46

I think her phrasing was rude but I understand people not going to restaurants etc at the moment. It’s most likely that unless she’s usually a massive cow.

Hercisback · 23/12/2021 20:46

Is there a back story?

WonderfulYou · 23/12/2021 21:09

What did your brother say?

They probably already have plans. Unless there is a back story.

Flowers500 · 23/12/2021 21:11

Can't wait for the massive drip feed...

NinaProudman2022 · 23/12/2021 21:20

Are your family anti vaxers OP?

TigerDroveAgain · 23/12/2021 21:23

No is a complete answer as they say on here. She doesn’t want to do it.

WhoopsWhatsMyNameAgain · 23/12/2021 21:25

Given her response, she clearly doesn't like you. Is there a reason?

Why don't you call your brother instead? It's his nephew.

YANBU to feel sad for your son. Whatever the reason, the kids are innocent

Lacedwithgrace · 23/12/2021 21:56

We are in a pandemic, not surprising they don't want to meet. Your DS will survive.

Santahatesbraisedcabbage · 23/12/2021 21:58

Well 1 less awful fucker you can stop bothering with in 2022 then!

Steelesauce · 23/12/2021 22:01

She either really doesn't like you or you've offended her recently. Everyone knows the correct response to an invite you cba with is 'yeah, sure, we'll sort it after Xmas' and never do.