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DH and January

25 replies

Lagomtransplant · 23/12/2021 19:45

DH has started to go on about January diets. I did tell him binge December followed by lean January isn't exactly healthy anyway, but he insisted on mince pies and chocolate, while blaming weather for not exercising (prefers to run outside).

I tend to stick to roughly the same diet year round, just adding an occasional treat. Typically this means Muesli and orange juice for breakfast, wholemeal sandwich and a piece of fruit for lunch, a protein bar before my bike and meat-and-two veg followed by a probiotic in the evening. I must admit a slight coffee obsession, though. I exercise daily, mostly on indoor bike and YouTube videos. Typically it takes me a reason for paracetamol or coming home from work after 7 not to do it. My bmi is constant, just under 25 (I'm genetically very muscular).

I'm trying to persuade him that he doesn't need any extra special products or subscriptions, just self restraint and determination to exercise to get to where he wants to be. Nevertheless, he had a mild panic this morning when he tipped into an overweight BMI. AIBU to hold my ground?

OP posts:
Dozer · 23/12/2021 19:47

Let him do what he wants, you do what you want.

Lou98 · 23/12/2021 19:59

I don't really get what the AIBU is - hold your ground about what? Do you not want him doing the diet he wants to do? Or does he want you to do it with him?

I don't really see the problem, everyone prefers to "diet" in their own ways. I prefer to eat healthier options etc whereas my partner prefers a strict diet when he wants to diet like chicken and rice only for weeks and the gym until he's where he wants to be - it works for him but would never work for me.

I eat what I want to eat, he eats what he wants to eat - neither of us try's to have a say in what the other is doing

Tabbacus · 23/12/2021 20:01

Hold your ground on what? He is an adult who can do what he wants and doesn't seem he is trying to control what you do?

TheNeverEndingOver · 23/12/2021 20:03

You sound smug

supersop60 · 23/12/2021 20:04

You do you.

MelonTits · 23/12/2021 20:08

Another vote for you do you, he do him. I exercise way more than DH and usually eat like @Lou98’s partner - protein/rice/greens and good snacks 5/7, then a bit more freedom on one weekday and one weekend day where DH and I eat together, but the rest of the time we do our own thing.
Does he want you to eat the same food as him, or help him stay on track?

Roundeartheratchriatmas · 23/12/2021 20:15

I’m not sure what the problem is ? He wants to do one thing you another.

Bouncebacker · 23/12/2021 20:22

Your diet would be a disaster for me, all those carbs would raise my blood sugar and I’d put on weight - but I’m me, you are you and your DH is his own person so maybe just chill?

BackBackBack · 23/12/2021 20:24

That's nice dear.

Marianne1234 · 23/12/2021 20:24

God you sound like an absolute barrel of laughs.

HeddaGarbled · 23/12/2021 20:25

🥱

girlmom21 · 23/12/2021 20:27

Yes.

halfagoat · 23/12/2021 20:27

Why don't you just leave the poor fucker alone?
Jesus, living with you must be so so much fun.

Strokethefurrywall · 23/12/2021 20:28

Is it not possible you could have answered this question in your own head OP?

Mittenmob · 23/12/2021 20:29

Have you considered that what you do might not work for him?

mildtomoderate · 23/12/2021 20:30

You both need to worry about this shit less and enjoy yourselves.

JulieGoods · 23/12/2021 20:30

Rather do it your DHs way. Your way is miserable.

Let him be an adult, you're not the boss of him.

Sure I'm sat here feeling sick yet still have some chocolates next to me, my jeans are too tight around my middle, last week the scales told me I'd gained 4lb so far.....

But January 3rd I'm looking forward to back to my clean, low ish carb life.

In the meantime I think I'll pour myself another Baileys and get my stretchy PJs on!

TheHoptimist · 23/12/2021 20:30

You are not his mother (and he is not 6)

namechange30455 · 23/12/2021 20:31

How does it affect you?

Does he spend loads of joint money on it? Insist on special meals being made?

If not I can't really see the problem tbh

SunnySideDownBriefly · 23/12/2021 20:32

Does he want you to diet with him?

I'm the same as you - keep it simple and add in treats as and when as well as regular exercise. It's a lifestyle isn't it? Some people just don't get it and think they have to transform everything overnight into something that is almost impossible to stick to. Diet culture has really messed people up.

JoshLymanIsHotterThanSam · 23/12/2021 20:34

You sound like a hoot at xmas….tis the season for indulging and a few bevvies. Over the space of a few days it’s not like your going to out three stone on is it?

WonderfulYou · 23/12/2021 21:05

Is he wanting to buy diet pills or silly things? Or does he just want a bit of a blow out over Xmas and then get back on it January?

Lots of people manage to binge and get back on track to remain healthy.

I would say your regimented routine is more unhealthy even if your BMI is normal.

TheCreamCaker · 23/12/2021 22:48

Bloody hell, lighten up, luv. You sound a right bore.

PinkSyCo · 23/12/2021 22:57

Hold your ground about what? Being a smug know-it-all rather than a nice person happy to support her husband in his endeavours to get fit after he has enjoyed his Christmas?

MrBoldwood · 23/12/2021 23:09

You sound fun.

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