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Look for a new job while TTC

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luniz · 23/12/2021 17:49

I’ll try and keep this very short but I’m miserable at my job. I’m having a really hard time with my boss and it’s affecting my mental health. It’s also a really stressful always on of job but that’s my chosen career path and that’s not going to change,

Anyway, I’ve stuck to it as long as I can because I knew we would start trying for a family this winter and my current company has quite good maternity benefits/ bonus programme. However, it is really beginning to affect me mentally and I want to start looking for another job. Am I being completely stupid and unreasonable because 1) starting a new job with the possibility of getting pregnant soon and then off leaving the company/me in a difficult position 2) leave what is a cushty position when my focus is going to be on family soon.

I’ve been at my current company a while and have a good network and love it when I’m not working with my current manager. I’m going to try and be kind and say there are 2 sides to every relationship but I feel bullied and trapped and every success I get at work, she looks for a way to block or undermine. I think we just have different styles but changing role, job or moving to a different position within the company is not possible without her approval (I’ve tried).

What would you do? Just wait it out and hope to get pregnant soon- what if getting pregnant takes forever like it does for many, I dread being stuck here for another year with no end in sight. For some context, I am the main earner in our marriage so we’re quite dependent on my work situation.

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BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 23/12/2021 17:51

I'd take some time off sick. It sounds tough. TTC while off.

If it happens for you, stick with the role to get the benefits and do the minimum return to work period afterwards.

If TTC takes 6m plus, maybe start job hunting. Mat benefits are usually worth staying for.

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