I'm starting to get really bloody annoyed with my DM.
The original plan was for DM to come to us on Boxing Day. She was invited on Christmas Day but she said she didn't want to spend time with my DHs family who are also invited.
Fine. So, she's coming Boxing Day instead and spending Christmas Day alone.
Then my 3 year old said to her he wanted to sit next to her during Christmas Lunch. DM feels guilty that she's not coming Christmas Day. So she changes her mind two weeks before Christmas. She now is coming. I get extra food in for the day. Stuff we wouldn't chose to have but I know they're traditional and important parts of the lunch for DM.
Now, I've just spoken to her again. Without a word to me she says to my three year old, 'are you happy with Nan coming the day after Christmas? Then you get to have her all to herself.' She probes and probes and my poor three year old has no idea in the end what she's asking or what he's supposed to say. She then says to me, 'try and get some sense out of him by tomorrow morning.'
I was furious. I said, 'Look, there is no getting sense out of him. Yes, he'd love to see you on Christmas Day but it'll likely be so busy and hectic, I can't imagine he'll notice if you don't come until the day after. Really, I just need to know whether you're coming or not.'
Still no definite answer. I'm really bloody annoyed. I don't like the way she's involved my three year old in this and I don't appreciate being mucked about. It's bloody Christmas Eve tomorrow and I still don't know what day she's coming. And the fact she dislikes DHs family so much that she'd rather spend Christmas Day alone and away from her daughter and grandchild also really annoys me.
AIBU to be furious about this?