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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Or did I do the right thing??

11 replies

loopyapp · 23/12/2021 16:41

OK back story:

Me, my partner who was here visiting and my older three children all recently had covid (last person out of isolation has only been out a week.) The baby tested negative every time we PCR'D (about 4 times) but he had all the same symptoms as the rest of us at the same time.

The wee one has had a runny tummy pretty much since it all started, we all had that too at points but he has consistently had diarrhoea since the first person got covid.

Since the weekend he's developed s fever again, a really soupy cough that's producing massive wads of green slime, his resp rate is up markedly and he's began vomiting (admittedly this seems linked to coughing up mucus).

I decided to re do his pcr and suspend all Xmas plans. We had several very long planned, extensive plans with numerous households that each have someone vulnerable albeit triple vaxxed.

Everyone told me it's fine, he's already had it surely and this is a post covid illness.

Today his diarrhoea has been so severe that he filled a fresh nappy front to back, up the back and down the legs to make a sizable puddle on the floor. Completely liquid.

I've put my foot down and cancelled.

Partner was supposed to set of from 2 hours away this evening to stay for Xmas, told him he can come and stay with the friends we had plans with but we won't be mixing till his pcr is back and or the diarrhoea stops.

Everyone is pretty cross. No one has said as much but the curt answers and lack of any input from some others is enough to get a sense of the vibe. My mum has made a total fuss about being left alone on Xmas, she has COPD and asthma!! And gallstones!! Ex's parents totally reasonable and the ex has said he understands but will be on standby to risk getting ill if its a bug and I get taken out too.

AIBU or should the plans be cancelled???

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loopyapp · 23/12/2021 16:42

To add, the baby is actually a toddler but local dialect means he's baby to us.. he's 20 months.

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Theunamedcat · 23/12/2021 16:44

It might not be covid but still could be contagious and sounds nasty as anything I wouldn't do Christmas with a sick baby either

loopyapp · 23/12/2021 16:45

@Theunamedcat

It might not be covid but still could be contagious and sounds nasty as anything I wouldn't do Christmas with a sick baby either
That's been my point too!! Who wants to spend Xmas with a poorly toddler!?!?!
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ShirleyPhallus · 23/12/2021 16:45

Covid aside, it would be pretty awful to travel with a child whose stomach is that bad. And if it isn’t covid, it’s some sort of horrible bug that I doubt anyone would thank you for

Stand firm OP. Hope you all get better soon

loopyapp · 23/12/2021 16:50

@ShirleyPhallus

Covid aside, it would be pretty awful to travel with a child whose stomach is that bad. And if it isn’t covid, it’s some sort of horrible bug that I doubt anyone would thank you for

Stand firm OP. Hope you all get better soon

Thanks - tbh partner was supposed to be travelling here but the plans would include a 45 min drive on Xmas day to the location of the plans. Which then involved shared cooking, toilets and toys.. absolute puke soup surely!
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Angrymum22 · 23/12/2021 16:50

It could be norovirus which for me was much worse than a dose of Covid. It spreads like wildfire and with a toddler it won’t be long before everyone is dropping like flies.

girlmom21 · 23/12/2021 16:51

I wouldn't take my poorly toddler out on Christmas Day, or the days surrounding Christmas. It's not fair on them.

loopyapp · 23/12/2021 16:54

@Angrymum22

It could be norovirus which for me was much worse than a dose of Covid. It spreads like wildfire and with a toddler it won’t be long before everyone is dropping like flies.
Precisely, anyone of us could 'start' at any point and if someone is staying here or we are mixing households it'll be like a mini epidemic of our own
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phishy · 23/12/2021 16:55

YANBU, they should be more concerned about the baby instead of being annoyed that you aren’t going to cook and run around after them.

How come you got lumbered with hosting ex and his parents?

Did you even want them there?

loopyapp · 23/12/2021 16:58

@girlmom21

I wouldn't take my poorly toddler out on Christmas Day, or the days surrounding Christmas. It's not fair on them.
And this!! He's OK ish in himself for now but he just needs to be home and rest.
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loopyapp · 23/12/2021 17:00

@phishy

YANBU, they should be more concerned about the baby instead of being annoyed that you aren’t going to cook and run around after them.

How come you got lumbered with hosting ex and his parents?

Did you even want them there?

Oh I'm sorry if I wasn't clear, ex and his parents only come for breakfast and present opening and then he goes to their house for dinner.

They aren't the ones being precious at all, even offering help at the risk of getting ill if I get taken down with it.

Dinner plans were a joint effort between multiple households with everyone mucking in.. which is in itself the issue.. several people cooking dinner for 15 people with a rancid toddler in the mix. Nope.

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