To not want people visiting to drop off gifts

[Hotyogahotchoc]

Covid numbers seem to be high so we are avoiding socialising with too many people and group meet ups.

We are dropping off family and friend gifts at the door and will have a quick chat if the like (realise it's come) but do not really want people in as we want to be well for Christmas and be able to see both sets of parents. A few of our friends are doing this.

A couple of friends have asked to come over with gifts. I have told both of them we are not visiting others indoors this week. One even said she is the same due to covid but has just called DH saying can she come now and can't wait to cuddle the baby! DH is not home so said he will check with me or ask me to call her.

AIBU to be anxious about her coming in? She's a nurse so works in hospital but LFT regularly.

It’s not something I would be offended by if you text to say exactly what you have just said!

YANBU.

If she turns up on the doorstep just say you aren’t even seeing family inside when swapping presents so you can’t let her in.

We delivered all ours on doorsteps and no one had a problem with us not wanting to go inside.

YABU. Stop watching the news and start living your life again.

YANBU. I did a gift swap on the doorstep today. I was offered to go in but I said no and explained why.

@over2021

YABU. Stop watching the news and start living your life again.

Yeah, because stopping watching the news will help ensure they are safe to see their parents 🙄 You do what feels best for you OP I would be cautious too and not take unnecessary chances at the moment

It's fine to tell people they can't come and see you until after Christmas as you are seeing elderly and/or CEV people.

We've actually had to tell someone not to come and see us because of who they are spending Christmas Day with.

Yanbu. I'm isolating due to suppressed immune system, so when people call, I lean out of top window, have a chat, explain and then get them to leave the parcel by the front door. No one seems to mind.

I think its perfectly acceptable to say exactly what you have here.

Yanbu. You have the right to set and maintain your own boundaries. Some people are comfortable with socialising indoors and some aren't. Anyone who is close enough to you in affection and esteem that you will be exchanging gifts should certainly be ok with you deciding for yourself where to draw the line and anyone who is offended at not being invited in doesn't need to go through the charade of exchanging gifts if they care so little for your right to self-determination.

YABU. It seems an unkind way to treat a friend who is a frontline worker.
Omicron is easily transmissible but not as serious.
Time to start living again.

Last year we dropped off gifts at the door and everyone invited us in but it was much easier to say no thank you than to tell someone they can't come in!

She told DH she would call but hasnt yet so it is getting late so I may text to say she is welcome to stop in or we will go over to her as we have gifts for them but will not be meeting up inside due to Covid.

I’m dropping gifts at the door too.

My team member is on mat leave so I’m dropping a gift for her and baby at the door and when arranging I very clearly told her I wasn’t expecting to come in and cuddle the baby although I really want to.

That's thoughtful of you @Merryoldgoat

A colleague came to drop gifts off for us eve. Baby was born, very generous gifts, and was surprised when I invited her in (this was a few months ago).

Everyone else expects to come in and say "looking forward to cuddles" etc but few offer to wear masks or even sanitize hands

Thank you @Hotyogahotchoc

I hope it alleviates a bit of stress. I’m just her manager and she’s got plenty to be getting on with but I didn’t want her to be left out of the gifts.

I’ll get a cuddle in the new year when things are hopefully less stressful.

Not unreasonable, just stay 2m away and explain you’re worried about covid (or lie and say you’re waiting for a PCR or something if they ask to enter?)

I’m pregnant and haven’t had booster yet so I’ve cancelled all play dates, visits and an overnight guest for the festive period.