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Original poster

Should I host Christmas later next week?

29 replies

Fedupofthis78 · 22/12/2021 15:38

Just tested positive for covid, as have the two kids, but not DH. I’m feeling awful, flulike aches, fever etc etc. I was supposed to be cooking Christmas dinner for the family (11 people) but that’s obviously off the table now. Plus I’m isolating upstairs with the kids while DH hangs out along downstairs.

My MIL has just sent a message telling me not to worry, we can freeze the turkey and I can cook for them all when I’m out of isolation in a week. No offer to go to the shops, didn’t ask how I was, or how the kids were. Just a comment that it would be a shame if FIL misses out on his turkey dinner.

AIBU to develop “long covid” and not be able to host until…maybe Easter?

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VickyEadieofThigh · 22/12/2021 15:40

That would be a big 'bog off' from me! She's really taking the piss, isn't she?

Passthewinebottle · 22/12/2021 15:43

WTF? How rude! My DD has covid currently & I've so many check ins on her & offers of help.

Long covid you say? Hell yes! 🤣

NovemberNovemberDarkNights · 22/12/2021 15:43

Jesus, can I assume she's usually just as bloody self centred??

Its a wonder she hasn't invited DH around so she can 'look after him' so he had a nice Christmas.

I'd HOPE your DH would tell her not to be so bloody ridiculous, as he wants to look after you all, but how kind of her to offer to cook Christmas dinner & drop it off for you all. (Can be used for sandwiches if some of you don't fancy dinner that day)

Bloody woman, I'd be giving her a VERY W I D E berth for a very long time!

Hope you & the kids get through it without feeling too bad!

DailyMailHater · 22/12/2021 15:48

I love the fact she assumes you will be well enough later in the week, so many people seem to think when isolation stops you are magically better, I had it last year and it I had flu like symptoms for 3-4 weeks and then it took another couple of months before I felt 100% myself again I just had no energy for months!

Original poster
Fedupofthis78 · 22/12/2021 15:57

Thanks for all your messages. Making me feel much better! Honestly if the boot was on the other foot we’d have to make so much fuss. We’re not even allowed to give her our presents as they are contaminated, despite the fact I haven’t touched them for a week. However, it was ok for her to go out for dinner with 8 friends the other night. Inside, obviously.

My poor SIL is now hosting (she is awesome). She had an operation a couple of weeks ago (relatively minor, but still). I also think she should tell them where to stick it.

…am now googling spa weekends for me and SIL in the new year…this is like therapy!

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TheBestUsernamesAreGone · 22/12/2021 15:58

I'm assuming Boris will tell us all on Boxing Day that further gatherings will be banned for a while (New Years etc) so it might not even be an option.

Cas112 · 22/12/2021 16:03

I'd just reply saying 'I'm fine for asking, will focus on getting better before I decide on making any dinner first'

BurbageBrook · 22/12/2021 16:05

Just tell her you’re not sure you’ll be up to it, you’ll have to see. By then, gatherings won’t be allowed I bet.

mygenericusername · 22/12/2021 16:06

My reply would be

HaHaHa
HaHa…Ha
No!!!!!!!

Bubblty · 22/12/2021 16:09

How rude! Seriously what a moo. I'd be getting DH to have a word with her. She doesn't even care just wants her turkey. Give her the fucking turkey and tell her to cook it herself.

DisforDarkChocolate · 22/12/2021 16:10

Bloody hell, tell her to sod off.

The most I could muster would be 'Sorry, FIL will have to get to the shops, we're taking it easy.

Bubblty · 22/12/2021 16:11

@DisforDarkChocolate

Bloody hell, tell her to sod off.

The most I could muster would be 'Sorry, FIL will have to get to the shops, we're taking it easy.

Something like this would be "polite" leave off the sorry
SheWolfOFFrancee · 22/12/2021 16:14

How bloody rude! Tell her to do one!

ChimChimeny · 22/12/2021 16:14

@TheBestUsernamesAreGone

I'm assuming Boris will tell us all on Boxing Day that further gatherings will be banned for a while (New Years etc) so it might not even be an option.
This is what I was going to say! She'll be waiting a long time the cheeky cow
GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 22/12/2021 16:14

“No I won’t be doing that. Im going to focus on getting better”

Surely your DH will be cooking the turkey for your family on Christmas Day, so you can’t just freeze it? What does she think you’re all going to eat whilst waiting for the honour of serving her?

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 22/12/2021 16:16

Also I don’t think your DH should be isolating form the kids. He needs to look after them (unless he’s CEV or something) even at the risk of catching covid so that you can fully rest and recover .

SmellyOldPartridgeinaPearTree · 22/12/2021 16:17

Erm what are you all supposed to eat on Christmas Day if you're freezing the turkey until next week Hmm

GougeAway · 22/12/2021 16:20

YANBU at all. What a selfish cow. I had CoViD very mildly but it took two months to get back to normal energy levels. No way could I have cooked a Christmas meal that soon after isolating and why should you? I hope your DH is fighting your corner.

Cofifeefee · 22/12/2021 16:22

She is crazy. There is no guarantee you will be ok in a week. What if your DH tests positive next week? And your kids the week after that? You could be pushing out Christmas dinner until February.

Get your DH to tell her it's cancelled.

KnottyKnitting · 22/12/2021 16:27

Jeez the amount of self centred MiLs around! Every second post is about a narcissistic relative!

And your DH is seriously downstairs while you are ill upstairs with two ill DCs? Tell him to put a mask on and step up!

Original poster
Fedupofthis78 · 22/12/2021 16:34

This is making me feel so much better! To be fair to DH, he is right in the middle of a nightmare at work due to covid. Bit outing to say what (not in the government!!). So he’s been on calls all day. We have also renamed him room-service and he’s been bringing up food and drinks and board games and generally being a skivvy. He’s alright…and best why I’m mad. He’s also CEV so trying to give him a wide berth, although he is boosted. He has also bought a huge fillet of beef and is going to attempt beef wellington on Christmas Day (our fav) as he’s too nervous to cook the turkey.

Good point about Boris bringing in a lockdown - that will be very convenient!

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Sn0tnose · 22/12/2021 16:44

The only response to that is a 😂 emoji, followed by ‘don’t make me laugh, it hurts!’

If she questions this, then reply ‘you want me to tell my DH and children that there’s nothing nice for Christmas dinner because FiL wants me to get out of my sick bed and cook it for him to eat it next week? Yeah, good one! You almost had me there!’

PussyCatEatingPigsInBlankets · 22/12/2021 17:04

Maybe FIL & MIL should cook and deliver your Christmas lunch - something like "meals on wheels"??

Otherwise the pair of them can bugger off, or choke on a bloody wishbone. Cheeky bastards.

PussyCatEatingPigsInBlankets · 22/12/2021 17:06

You could tell her you've cancelled the Turkey on your online shop.

PussyCatEatingPigsInBlankets · 22/12/2021 17:07

One last thing...your lovely SIL, she needs to do an LFT...Wink