Do you ever have dream of ex boyfriends from years ago ?

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About twice a year I seem to have dreams of an old ex. I mean from my teenage / early twenties years.

It's always him and always similar, in that he 'finally' wants to be with me.

I broke off contact with him, 10 years ago. He still wanted to remain in my life, but I didn't think it was appropriate anymore.

I got to know him nearly 20 years ago and I'm happily married with children.

Why would I keep having this dream ? Is some part of me still not over it ? Does anyone else have that ?

I would say I spent a large part of my formative years with this person and it really did my self esteem no good. It was very damaging, as he literally just used me and I put up with it. Looking back on it, he really didn't care at all and didn't treat me like I was worth much. Of course, I allowed this, which was my fault.

Why keep having these dreams now ?

I do. I dont think it's about them specifically as a bit of fun reminiscing about that time, being younger, redoing past conversations and events the way you would want to now with better perspective. I think it's enjoyable, I still wake up adoring my DH and in no way do I desire any of these men over him.

Yes. I dream far more often of my first boyfriend - we were together for about 2 years but never lived together - than my ex-fiance who I lived with for about 10 years. The dreams have a fairly set pattern. I have no idea what he's doing now in real life.

I sometimes wonder "what happened to X" or "wonder how it would have turned out if we'd stayed together"

But I've never dreamed about them

I dream about my first proper boyfriend once a month or so. He was quite controlling and I often dream that I’m still in a relationship with him but I’m trying to leave him and that I want to be with my DH.

I've dreamt a couple of times that my completely nice and non-abusive ex was trying to break into my house and woken up terrified.

It means nothing, it's just your brain doing weird shit.

I have a recurring dream about an ex and i love having it. I dream that we are still together. I'm always really confused and unhappy as he's an abusive prick and I hate him.
Then I wake up beside my awesome DH and the overwhelming feeling of relief is amazing! I be so happy it wasn't real and get a renewed gratitude for my husband.

I do with one particular ex. I think truth be told a part of me is not necessarily over it / him. But i wouldn't trade the life I have now for him. I think I've made peace with knowing though I might never 'get over it' in that sense I have moved on iyswim.

Yes, always the same one from uni 20 odd years ago. It wasn't a serious relationship. Not sure why him and not either of the serious ones before DH. He was my first boyfriend so maybe some nostalgia for younger days.

Yes about one particular person. It was a tricky situation…the sort where there was a definite connection but we were never single at the same time but we did have a very brief fling. It was complicated. Unfinished business I think which is why he pops up in my dreams.

@VladmirsPoutine I think I feel the same. I would never trade what I have now but I sometimes wonder ‘what if’

I had a dream just this week that my extremely abusive ex from 20 years ago had died. It was so real I looked him up on social media.

Nup- still alive and terrorising his much younger and vulnerable wife I see.