What is it about Christmas that brings the CF out in force?

[HouseAHunting]

I have seen so many threads on here about seriously cheeky fucker behaviour and it seems to get way worse at christmas!! Lot of people expecting women to be slaves / the sole bearer of Christmas. I suppose it is a trend of events like weddings, funerals etc bringing out peoples CF ways.

In the past half an hour l received:
-text from MIL; "what time is dinner at your house on the 28th?" Im very confused by this as we had made loose plans to catch up, wasn't planning on doing a full on dinner and didn't even discuss location. It is my last and only day off work at Christmas time off thanks to COVID. Why would l be hosting, why would l be doing dinner and what will l cook?! Thanks to self isolation we have enough to get through but l don't want my first trip out of the house to Tesco when it opens! Luckily l don't have a dear partner problem, as when l mentioned it to him. He said that isn't happening and was rather bemused, weirdly enough he didn't want to spend that day running around either
-l receive a gift card from an auntie ( all good so far). But then in the card writes "Dear #####, Happy Christmas. Please please please do no send me flowers. Love Auntie #####". Firstly what an odd thing to write in a gift card to someone else at Christmas, secondly l have never got her flowers for Christmas and thirdly why tell me on the 22nd? Surely l would have got their present by that point?! For the record l didn't buy her flowers

A few Christmas's ago my mother suggested l drive a 500 mile round trip and then do / cook / organise Christmas at her house. I said no

Weird. I don't get anything like that.

I so understand everything you wrote!

Casual sexism.

@Bubblty 🙄

The inviting yourself to dinner is a particularly odd and rude thing to do!

[quote Bex268]@Bubblty 🙄[/quote]
I'm not saying OP is weird just that the people are weird. I mean who invites themselves to dinner?! Or orders someone not to get them flowers. I'd be tempted to buy flowers next year tbh

Hi mil,
Tomato or lentil soup for lunch the 28th?
Op...

Ha! How did you respond to MIL?

@Trixiethewhore l didn’t respond! He can respond.

@Bex268 thanks, l did think it was casual sexism. My partner doesn’t get these kind of messages off anyone

We only moved house on the 25th of November so we’ve had busy few months! Plus l currently have covid for the 2nd time. People’s entitlement and lack of thought is impressive

@Bubblty not going to lie, l was tempted to order her flowers for next Christmas! There’s no flowers backstory either, she’s not allergic and doesn’t hate flowers 🤷‍♀️That’s what makes the thing so odd. She does have poor manners though

I’m now confusing myself as l somehow have 2 user names running?!

My aunt ordered me not to buy her flowers after the one and only time I did. It was because her cat wouldn't leave them alone and kept pulling them over. Strange thing to put in a card but does she have a new cat?

PIL did the 'do NOT buy us flowers' thing.. Really pissed me off - we've never bought them flowers! (TBH they don't deserve them)

@Redcherries no pets or cats. No plan to get a kitten

@WaterAndTheWild a weird none issue then. Very odd

Will your DH knock 28th on the head though or will he do as mine would. Leave it and the on the morning of the 28th say - it's too late to cancel them now but don't worry I'll do it ..... Then every 20 seconds do we have any ....., Where do we keep the ....., How much should I use?

@Catflapkitkat up to him if he cancels it or not. I won’t be cooking or doing the host thing. I also won’t be answering inane questions like where the garlic is etc

Any chance mil is asking to avoid clashing with your dinner? Perhaps take it that way and respond with, "We have dinner at 7 so you're welcome to come between the hours of 12-5."