How do I say no without causing offense?

[Rainbowabacus1]

Get together on Boxing Day. Was cancelled last Friday due to host testing positive. Now they’ve changed the isolation rules in England host has text everyone to say we’re back on for Boxing Day as they’ll do LFTs etc.

I don’t feel comfortable going as her husband or one of the children could be brewing it.

I’m sure many of you would still choose to go and that’s fine, but after having Covid and losing a family member to it we are understandably very cautious now.

AIBU to ask How do I say no politely and without causing offense?

Do you think "flip off we're not coming" would do it?

That's not going to cause offence is it?

Just say 'Ahhh sorry, we've made other plans now. Job done.

Thank you so much but we’ve made alternative plans. Hopefully we can catch up in the new year xx

* I’m sure many of you would still choose to go and that’s fine, but after having Covid and losing a family member to it we are understandably very cautious now. *

Essentiall say this.
Thank you lovely offer
Express disappointment
Say you would love to reschedule for the new year

End of

I'd tell the truth, that you're not comfortable.

If however you don't want to be truthful, you could say you've made other plans now and you'll catch up in the NY.

Tell the truth. You’ll probably not be the only ones.

wish him well, say you're not going, and either that you don't feel comfortable taking the risk, or that you have made other plans vegging out in front of the television eating a mountain of chocolate

They are only changed if the person has tested negative from day 6 onwards.

They can’t know for sure that they will, so it sounds like they’ll go ahead regardless of tests?

Well they can’t know yet that it can still go ahead, because they don’t know for sure that they’ll test negative on day 6 and 7

So you either tell them the truth - “sorry, we don’t feel comfortable with that” or “oh sorry we’ve already made other plans, what a shame, see you after the NY”

"Hi, thanks so much for still wanting us over. I'm just a little worried about the risk of catching it so I think it's best for us to stay at home. But let's make up for it in the new year we can do XYZ. I hope you have a great Christmas, see you soon. X"