Hello! Name change poster here, wondering wtf is going on with DH, or if I'm just overthinking things. Been together for 25 years, both in our late 50s. Neither of us have a hugely high sex drive, me especially not since the menopause. We had sex at the weekend, instigated by me. He wouldn't let me 'do' anything to him, I couldn't kiss him, change position, touch him, stroke him etc, it was over in a flash and I ended up feeling a bit used. He said it can't have been that bad because I had an orgasm. I wouldn't say it was bad...it just felt a bit off. If it's relevant, I used to have a high earning job which I retired early from, and retrained into a less well paid vocation which I love. I'm wondering if he's asserting some kind of authority, or if I'm hugely overthinking here? He thinks I'm making a fuss over nothing.