Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

Oh FFS. Done an MN flounce and its backfired.

77 replies

Sparklfairy · 22/12/2021 03:25

Just that really. Went to stay with my mum for Christmas, she had a flounce, so I had a flounce, all totally over dramatic and unnecessary.

Now I'm at home and so is she. We've had a delightful phone conversation kind of half discussing plans to now be alone Grin I even told her (and we laughed about) what a ballache it was to get back and the pitfalls I had.

Its stupid. I have to be the bigger person dont I. We only live a few miles apart, there's really no need for all this drama Grin

OP posts:
Kbish1 · 22/12/2021 03:28

Honestly, if you get on normally and you have sorted it out, go back.

Just chalk it up to stress and start again.

beenthereboughtthetshirt · 22/12/2021 03:47

Leave the reunion til New Years Eve.

Enjoy Christmas at home. Xmas Wink

Emerald5hamrock · 22/12/2021 03:49

You can blow off steam with your DM the Christmas stress, the important thing is making up. Grin
Go back tomorrow put it behind you both. Flowers

Coyoacan · 22/12/2021 04:00

I'm a great flouncer and now my dgd is taking after me. It's never too late to try to change the habits of a lifetime, OP.

Rangoon · 22/12/2021 04:46

My mum died four years ago just after Christmas. I would give anything to talk to her again and tell her about her grandsons and what they are doing now. I would love to tell her about the oldest getting into medical school and the youngest doing well at school and going on to university. Please make up and don't waste this time.

Furries · 22/12/2021 05:11

Maybe work things out so that you patch it up to you arriving Christmas Eve (sleep over). Spend Christmas Day there (sleep over if drinking) and go home first thing Boxing Day.

‘Tis not easy with family stuff! Best way is to limit your time vs not being a dick - never blooming easy !

Furries · 22/12/2021 05:16

@Rangoon

My mum died four years ago just after Christmas. I would give anything to talk to her again and tell her about her grandsons and what they are doing now. I would love to tell her about the oldest getting into medical school and the youngest doing well at school and going on to university. Please make up and don't waste this time.
Your post made me want to cry, completely understand where you’re coming from.

Unfortunately, some people don’t have that relationship with family members - to the point that it will never be rectified.

Wishing strength and love to everyone over the season.

Bubblty · 22/12/2021 05:19

Can you unflounce?

PlanktonsComputerWife · 22/12/2021 05:25

You could go back...

or sit at home swigging gin and mournfully caterwauling "Lonely This Christmas"...

TBH both are quite attractive!

OwlinaTree · 22/12/2021 05:51

Sounds like you are held way to making up if you have spoken on the phone.

As an aside I have never managed a successful flounce. I inevitably have to go back in to get my coat or something which ruins the effect somewhat. Grin

OwlinaTree · 22/12/2021 05:51

Half way not held way Blush

Coffeetree · 22/12/2021 05:56

Oh dear, flounce and counterflounce!

Look, it's been an absolutely shit year. If you each want to spend Christmas alone, just do that! There's no law against it.

Ubiquery · 22/12/2021 06:04

I thought a MN Flounce would be when you flounce off MN.

yeahitlookslike · 22/12/2021 06:16

Isn't an MN flounce when you announce you're leaving, wait for people to beg you to stay, fight bitterly against the four thousand messages calling you an attention-seeking twat and then quietly namechange to stick around?

tcjotm · 22/12/2021 06:58

I think it’s great you’ve had a nice chat since. You don’t have to unflounce - you’ve both already put it behind you. The flouncing happened in an alternate universe to other versions of you both 😂

Now you’re just a nice daughter visiting her mum at Christmas 😊

2catsandhappy · 22/12/2021 07:21

Ahhh. You need to change your name, change identifying details and ask her adviceGrin

DixieSun · 22/12/2021 07:24

@yeahitlookslike

Isn't an MN flounce when you announce you're leaving, wait for people to beg you to stay, fight bitterly against the four thousand messages calling you an attention-seeking twat and then quietly namechange to stick around?
Yes. I love flounder's corner for some light entertainment Grin
DixieSun · 22/12/2021 07:24

Flounce right back there OP. Merry Christmas Xmas Grin

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 22/12/2021 07:42

I think it depends on what actually happened, and if there is a back story. If you going back is just likely to result in more rowing whilst you are there, it may be preferable to agree to do your own thing at Christmas, but keep relations as cordial as possible. I say this having a DM who is extremely stressful to be around for even a couple of days. She will come Boxing Day and take over my kitchen, and decide what is being thrown out around the house. I actually check the bins when she has gone. Yes, I could refuse to have her, but it's a compromise to restrict visits as she is elderly. Having said that, she's always been very difficult, and it's now become impossible to tell the lifelong MH issues apart from the mild dementia, and narcissistic tendencies...

HelloDulling · 22/12/2021 07:45

Lovely weather for a de-flounce, OP. Have some breakfast then give her a call.

TheRedTowel · 22/12/2021 07:48

I'm forever flouncing out my mum's house and then walking back in the next day like nothing happened. I learned it from her, she knows the rules.

Luredbyapomegranate · 22/12/2021 08:00

If you can’t have a flounce at Christmas when can you have a flounce? 💃 . And if you can’t flounce at your mum what is the world coming to? Grin

However now you are both laughing about it, get your arse in the car and get back. I wish you a happy Christmas with mirthful moments as you both reminisce about your flouncing 💃🎄💃🎄

Original poster
Sparklfairy · 22/12/2021 08:01

@TheRedTowel

I'm forever flouncing out my mum's house and then walking back in the next day like nothing happened. I learned it from her, she knows the rules.
I love this, and think I might do this Grin

No backstory. Over lockdown I inadvertently stayed six months and we fell out once for 5 minutes Grin at the time it definitely felt like a drama MN would be proud of, but I got home and had to go to the supermarket as had no food in and all of a sudden realised, "yeah I've probably been a dick" Grin

OP posts:
ClaudiaJ1 · 22/12/2021 08:10

One, where is the MN flounce? You're still on this site? Secondly, if you only live a few miles apart, why were you staying with each other, especially as it's only the 22nd and Christmas Day isn't until Saturday?

TeaMeBasil · 22/12/2021 08:15

TheRedTowel
"I'm forever flouncing out my mum's house and then walking back in the next day like nothing happened. I learned it from her, she knows the rules."

This made me laugh - head back over there for Christmas @Sparklfairy and laugh about it!