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Original poster

To send dd to nursery

28 replies

CrispsAndChoc · 21/12/2021 13:05

DD1 and DH had positive Covid tests last month and we are sure DD2 had it too then but she really fought against the test so I don’t think it picked it up. They all isolated together (I had to go to work).

I thought I’d escaped it but now I have tested positive. I feel run down and could do with a rest. DD1 will have to stay in with me as school is closed for Christmas but could I send DD2 to nursery? Her LFT today was negative and I’ll do another one before sending her tomorrow. She’s is 2 years old.

So, aibu to send DD2 to nursery when I have Covid and am isolating.

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user1471457354 · 21/12/2021 13:17

Honestly, no I don't think you should send her in. Although the rules mean she technically can as long as LFT is negative, they are not very accurate and if you have Omicron variant then its very likely she has it too. Sorry

JazzHandsYeah · 21/12/2021 13:19

So that she can pass it on to others and ruin their Christmas? No. YABU.

GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 21/12/2021 13:20

I really wouldn't.

WhatILoved · 21/12/2021 13:21

I'm a childminder and I'd be annoyed at you. You are potentially spoiling quite a few nursery workers' Christmases and also those of fellow parents of children who go there. Would you accept a play date of a child whose parent had covid right now?

LJAKS · 21/12/2021 13:22

I'm in Scotland where there is literally no option. If one person is positive the whole house isolates. Which my daughter is. Merry Christmas Xmas Hmm
It might legally be ok elsewhere but morally...

Kbyodjs · 21/12/2021 13:23

I thought you had to do a PCR test if a close contact tests positive or maybe that’s just our nursery policy. However no I wouldn’t just before Christmas; if you need a rest then ask your DH to take time off

Tal45 · 21/12/2021 13:23

You could as you're allowed but I wouldn't because you could ruin a lot of Christmas's. It would be awful if people felt like you do on Christmas day because you sent your daughter in.

Rexthesnail · 21/12/2021 13:24

YABVVVU to potentially ruin other people's Christmas and put the nursery at risk of closing, as well as putting people health at risk, for a rest. Stick some cartoons on, give a Christmas present early if it will distract and give her something new to play with. Why can't DH have a day off rather than risk other people's health/work??

Alayalaya · 21/12/2021 13:24

What is the nursery’s policy? My son’s nursery has a policy that if a household member is positive the child has to stay at home even if they test negative.

Covidclaire · 21/12/2021 13:25

What is the nursery’s policy? School asked us to do a PCR before letting the kids return if there was a positive case in the household.

Lindy2 · 21/12/2021 13:27

No. Keep her home. It's really unfair to put the staff and other children at risk at the nursery when you do have the option to keep her home.

Thehogfatherstolemycurry · 21/12/2021 13:27

I've put yanbu because you can lawfully send her in... But as a nursery worker I'd be pissed off with you for being selfish and potentially ruining lots of other people's christmasses.

alsksieh · 21/12/2021 13:28

It would be incredibly selfish to send her. Even if she did have it previously she could still have got it again.

santaclothes · 21/12/2021 13:29

Please don't do this just before Christmas Sad

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 21/12/2021 13:30

Yes you lawfully can, but it does seem a bit unfair!

Can’t your DH look after her?

NeedAHoliday2021 · 21/12/2021 13:30

Ask nursery for guidance. Our primary school says no household contacts but Dd1 was able to go to secondary with daily lft. I took their advice and followed it.

DockOTheBay · 21/12/2021 13:38

If you're working from home I would send her in. If not, I wouldn't. its only a few days until Christmas when she will be off nursery anyway so you can probably manage. It seems a shame to risk the nursery staff and kids having to isolate over Christmas when you don't really need the childcare.

melj1213 · 21/12/2021 13:52

Legally you can send her in, but morally you should keep her home.

You know you have Covid in the house, why would you take the chance of having DD2 carry it into the nursery and put others at risk?

mindutopia · 21/12/2021 13:55

I kept both of mine home when dh had it a couple weeks ago, though both were originally negative (one of them came up positive about 3 days later). School and nursery both have asked people to keep them home if they can. In our case, while dh was too ill to care for them, I had to adjust my workload (I wfh) so that I could be the primary caregiver while we all isolated.

kirinm · 21/12/2021 13:56

This close to Christmas, I'd keep her at home. I would feel awful if I was responsible for ruining other people's plans given how close to Christmas we are now.

Emmacb82 · 21/12/2021 13:56

No I think it would be very unfair to do this. Just because you suspect she may have had it before, you have no proof of this and there’s always a risk you can have it again anyway. For the sake of one miserable day at home, please don’t ruin the Christmas of many other families and those poor nursery workers. I work night shifts as a nurse and come home a look after my ds who is 20 months on no sleep and I do that every week! So I’m sure you can manage feeling a bit rotten for one day. Camp on the sofa and let them play. Get your dh to make them lunch in the morning so all you’ve got to do is lay it out.

WorriedGiraffe · 21/12/2021 13:58

You should keep her home to avoid ruining their Christmas. Her lft may be negative but if you think she fights against tests and it stops them picking up her infection properly then it’s just not reliable.

MothExterminator · 21/12/2021 14:02

Please don’t. This is such a crappy time for everyone and people are looking forward to Christmas. Some might have vulnerable relatives.

Just put them in front of the TV /IPad and let them watch something whilst you relax on the sofa.

Original poster
CrispsAndChoc · 21/12/2021 14:02

You’re all right. Absolutely. Thank you to everyone who has responded and merry Christmas.

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Esssa · 21/12/2021 14:02

Would you send them to grandparents for the day? If you wouldn't you shouldn't send to nursery either. Being ill with children around is just part of the parenting gig I'm afraid.