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Is this cheeky?

37 replies

aingerlinger · 21/12/2021 08:25

My friend asked me would I take her to the shopping centre last night after I finished work so she could grab a couple of gifts.
I finished work at 5pm and picked her up and we arrived at shopping centre at 6pm.
We didn't leave till 9.30 pm...I assumed she would be in and out considering she said a couple of gifts.
Anyway driving home she asked could we stop at Tesco whilst she ran in for a few essentials.
I said yes and waited in the car with her daughter.
1 hour later she comes out with her full Christmas shop!
I got home at 11.45 pm (after dropping her home)

Aibu to think it's so cheeky ?

OP posts:
Beautiful3 · 21/12/2021 10:54

I would have told her after the first hour, I'm going home at x o'clock, I've been to work all day, I'm tired and need to eat. If she didn't make it back to the car, I'd leave. If she wanted to pop into a shop, I would have driven to a corner shop/garage for essentials. She used you and you didn't set any boundaries.

Hemingwayscatz · 21/12/2021 11:05

She took the piss but you definitely enabled this. When you realised she definitely wasn’t only getting a couple of presents, you should have pulled the plug and said you needed to get home. Instead you allowed her to drag it out for 3 hours and then you took her to Tesco afterwards too? Don’t be a pushover in future!

freelions · 21/12/2021 11:12

Yes she is massively cheeky but it sounds like you did nothing to help yourself

You need to set clear boundaries on what you are prepared to do to help her out or she will continue to treat you like a doormat

WorraLiberty · 21/12/2021 11:15

Aibu to think it's so cheeky?

You might as well be asking if grass is green.

Also, (as is blindingly obvious) you enabled her. I think that's what you need to be looking at.

Cocomarine · 21/12/2021 19:54

@aingerlinger please come back and tell us how this happened!

BiscuitLover3678 · 21/12/2021 19:55

The tesco bit is outrageous!

GrazingSheep · 21/12/2021 19:55

Why is MN full of doormats?

AnneElliott · 21/12/2021 19:58

The Tesco bit is cheeky. I can see why she might have thought the shopping was done if you were walking with her and chatting etc - more like a night out together etc. but the Tesco thing is completely cheeky!

thenewduchessoflapland · 21/12/2021 19:58

So she used you as a free taxi?

She could have scheduled a Tesco delivery and ordered her Christmas shopping online to be delivered;she took advantage of you.

Christmascakecakecheese · 21/12/2021 20:01

I'd say piss taking rather than cheeky but as soon as she said Tesco your response should have been 'No I'm later than I intended to be as it is'.

Georgeskitchen · 21/12/2021 20:34

Defo cheeky. Happened to me once. I offered a girl I worked with a lift home to save her a long bus ride. She said she just had a couple of bits to buy before leaving . I said I would wait out front ( we worked in a supermarket) 20 minutes later she hadn't shown so I went to look for her. She was stood in the checkout queue with a large trolley of shopping. I was bloody furious and ended up driving into rush hour traffic and was about an hour later than usual arriving home . I never offered again!!

TheCreamCaker · 21/12/2021 20:37
  1. She's a cheeky cow.
  2. You're daft for allowing her to be a cheeky cow.
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