Christmas card exhange?

[LeninaC]

Am I being unreasonable to wish that at least half the people to whom I send Christmas cards would respond?

I only do them for the neighbours, because they send them first and I don't interact with them on SM or see them that often due to the layout of our houses. There's 13 houses on our close.

And I'm puzzled that some here seem to think the way to rspond to a Christmas card is with a text saying thank-you

A friend of mine still sends christmas cards, and I messaged her to say thank you when I received it, and in the message wished her a Happy Christmas.

What's wrong with that?

I know a few people who say they don’t send cards but give to charity instead. I send cards because I like to let people know I’m thinking of them at this time of year, but I’m never sure whether the people who don’t send cards themselves actually want them from me? Or whether they disapprove of me sending them!

Christmad cards are a pain in the backside. Dangerous too because I like candles about. I only put up the ones from close relations, the rest get read then go in the bin. I send cards to people I don't see or communicate with on sm. I've sent more since covid as I've seen less people.

@Ionlydomassiveones

I didn’t see them ‘going out of fashion’ when I couldn’t get near them in card zone today - or in Asda where they were mostly sold out. I think the idea that they’re not ‘environmentally friendly’ is utter hypocritical bullshit given the rest of the unnecessary Yuletide crap people happily fill their trollies with. People are just looking for excuses to get out of sending them because they either don’t give a shit, are lazy, selfish and/or disorganised.

I make a fuss of people on their birthday - the day that’s specific to them.

My winter festival is today: winter solstice. An actual thing. Not a made up festival stolen from the pagans and made onto a commercial farce.

If you need that to think of the people you care about then I feel rather sorry for you.

Dangerous too because I like candles about.

That doesn't make cards dangerous

I feel obliged to reciprocate to the cards I get ( ( not many now) and tbh it’s a bit of a pain.
Haven’t sent them yet but hoping that tomorrow first class will be ok.
Surely if they don’t respond just knock em off the list for next year

I understand you OP. I send cards every year because like people to know im thinking of them. But i cant help feeling disappointed when they dont respond, wondering have they any interest in keeping in contact with me.

Like a pp I find it a bit to say they're bad for the environment given all the plastic tat / packaging that comes with the season.

I like receiving cards especially if someone has written something a bit out of the ordinary / personalised. Not keen on texts and WhatsApp messages for Christmas.

Some people are too busy or not keen to send and I accept that.

I like giving and receiving the personalised ones like mum, dad, sister etc.
Because I do keep mine from close relatives. Parents, my dcs etc.

But I don't write many 'boxed' ones.
At over 70p per stamp when a box costs a couple quid for 20 just seems ridiculous.

I find they clutter the place too. Can't stand clutter on surfaces.

I love Christmas cards and am sad that this tradition will die out.

My uncle, an elderly gentleman, lived on his own for many years. After his wife died I made a point of sending him a Christmas cards every year. When he eventually died they found on his bedside table all of the cards I had sent him over the years, proudly displayed.
I'm glad I made the effort even though it was a struggle to come up with a note sometimes.

I'm mid 60s and haven't sent Xmas cards in over 20 years, probably nearer 25. We usually get about 20 but they're all from people who know I don't send cards because I've told them I don't send cards. My Dh sends 3 to his elderly aunts in their 90s. They might be upset not to get one. Mine stay in a little pile in a drawer until boxing day when I feel it's ok to put them in recycle bin

I don’t think anyone is unreasonable for hoping for something, but it’s not realistic at a time when Christmas cards are becoming a tradition of the past. The problem with the AIBU threads are that you will be torn to pieces. Just send them with the understanding that if someone doesn’t reciprocate it says nothing about how they feel about you but how they feel about Christmas cards.

It’s lovely to get them but we normally only get them from our mum’s. For friends, we just post on each other’s FB 😆

I think sending Christmas cards seems to be dying out other than by older people?

I send cards to my elderly relatives only as I think it's expected/appreciated. I don't get any enjoyment out of receiving them to be honest.

My parents used to send and receive so many cards that they would keep a list each year and if someone missed sending them one two years in a row they would just take them off their list.

cards are a waste of time, dear Cath, happy christmas from Lucy, then loads of money to send in the post, stamps arent cheap,

I hope they get phased out. Just talk to people, have a chat or send them a message. Less waste too,

I remember putting all our families cards out as a kid.. the card holder used to get so full! 100s of the things.. all us kids got them from mates, our parents family, friends, work friends, neighbours. It was lovely.

But equally I like getting none as an adult 😆

I always try to be organised enough to do cards but find myself scrambling to get some last minute which always means some will be left out because I won't see them before Christmas anymore. I know this is selfish because I love getting them myself but if I'm honest I spend my entire life running round like a headless chicken doing everything when it's too late.

I still send them. It's a nice way to keep in touch with people you don't see regularly. I always include a personal note. It's nice to have similar from people, but if it just says "Happy Christmas, Hillarious", I do wonder why they bothered.

Never in my wildest dreams would I expect to get a card from my mother, or send her one. We'd sent gifts.