Anyone have healthy and happy older children after very anxious and/or stressful pregnancy??

[Momtobe88]

Looking for some positives stories that can hopefully put my mind at ease!

Around 20 weeks I made the mistake go googling anxiety/stress during pregnancy after I had some anxiety dreams. WHAT A MISTAKE! All the articles about cortisol getting through the placenta and causing issues with the baby's brain made my anxiety go crazy.

Unfortunately, this only made me worry about worrying and have horrible dreams every night, until 38 weeks when DD was born. I would wake up with my heart racing and then be so upset (crying) about it the following days my heart rate won't return to normal. The most recent article stated they have seen on MRIs that after a stressful pregnancy the baby's hippocampus is smaller therefore leading to depression later in life, especially with DDs.

Anyone had experience with an anxiety ridden/stressful pregnancy and have healthy and happy children? Especially older children since that's when many issues come out?I don't want to have this in the back of my mind her whole life!

It may be living in a bubble, but please do not tell me horror stories or if this did indeed happened to you, as it will only make my anxiety worse!

My mum had an actual nervous breakdown when she was pregnant with me and I turned out ok! Stop googling! Xx

@Momtobe88 I posted earlier in the thread but returned to say please speak to your GP now about your anxiety.

My anxiety got so bad when I had DS it escalated off the charts and the first 18 months of his life were spent with me in a state of panic. Eventually I was diagnosed with OCD and had psychotherapy but I wish I'd dealt with the anxiety before I had DS, it would have meant I could have enjoyed his baby stage a lot more without constant dread.

I hope all goes really well for you. X

My first pregnancy was really stressful. Had my PhD viva at 3 months, found out one of my parents (who had cancer) was ill again at four months, they died when I was seven months and at 8.5 months we finally bought a house after 3 months of legal battles and then the house turned out to be a disaster. My daughter (14) is fabulous, I couldn’t be prouder of her. Don’t worry!!

Thanks for all the well wishes! I’m so happy it turned out well for so many of you!

Google is basically banned on my phone, I’ve learned my lesson on that. Too bad I couldn’t have been pregnant pre-internet.

Although my anxiety is no where near how it was in pregnancy, I am doing some CBT to keep it at bay. With that said, everyone’s stories might be the biggest help. So thank you all!

Try not to Google it never helps, sorry you have bed. Having a hard time. Just to reassure you…

My pregnancy was horrendous with youngest DS. Death of his beautiful sister, a few months later I wrote my car off in a horrific accident, I was convinced he’d died. One week after that my surviving daughter had an accident which required her arm being pinned for months, we were told on the way to theatre, it might be amputated. I was a nervous wreck. So much so I was induced three weeks early by orders of the psychiatrist overseeing my care.

He is now nearly six and the most joyous, cuddly, inquisitive boy in the history of the world. He is super friendly so always surrounded by friends and as bright as a button to boot. Despite 9 months developing in doom and gloom, he is the epitome of sunshine.