Christmas recent death

[Noracora]

Just wondering if its because the pain is still raw or whether Im in the wrong.
Lost my mum one week today .
We informed people we wouldnt be sending cards this year and not really celebrating Christmas.
The estranged MIL who we only really speak to on the phone every couple of months (sometimes longer because of her lack of interest in the children) has sent a message to OH saying I thought I would still get a card and gift from the children.
Is it because I'm griefing I find it insenstive or should we be sending her something and acting all normal??

@Redwinestillfine

If you requested no cards she should respect that, if there wasn't history I would say she probably wanted to make sure the kids don't miss out, but it sounds like you know her better than that. Other people may sl ip up by accident as well.Ask you dh to hide any more cards that come. Maybe your kids can open them and put hem away in a box so you don't havehad deal. In a similar situation I had a notebook to write all the insensitive things people accidentally say when you're grieving in. It was recommended by a counsellor and helped.

I think she said the MIL expected a card and present from the children . Not the other way round .

So sorry for your loss.
Deaths shortly before Christmas are crap because everyone wants to celebrate Christmas.