To not go for this meal

[Ciaram55]

There are 4 of us who meet up regularly, usually for a meal. We have had a table booked for Thursday night for a while now. I've told one of the friends I'm too worried about covid to go now because of the faster spread. She thinks I'm being over cautious and "ridiculous" for not wanting to go. After all I've "had my jabs" according to her.

What does everyone think, aibu to not go. I can't bear the thought of getting poorly right on Christmas.

I have to say I’m still going out and about as normal, I am no longer letting myself be scaremongered BUT I’d never ever pressure a friend who doesn’t feel comfortable meeting up. YANBU

Everyone has to make their own decisions, and no one should be calling anyone ridiculous either way

Numbers of cases and the chances of catching it have never been higher. It depends what you've got planned for xmas and how upset youd be at having to cancel it

YANBU we’ve cancelled everything bar an outside trip with family friends this week so we can have a family Christmas. We’ve even cancelled paid for theatre trips. I want to see my parents, DC want to see their cousins and aunties. I’m not risking that for anything.

From a less personal perspective- minimising contact minimises spread. The NHS is already overheating. That means everyone suffers. It’s not just people dying from covid.

It will all come good. Holding back temporarily on my social life is a small thing to do.

I am so disheartened to see so many threads similar to this one. Not because of the OP but there always seems to be a friend or family member who is dismissive of their feelings and frankly should be ashamed of themselves. People's risk tolerances are clearly different and it's a decision that needs to be made by each individual and not be bullied into doing something they aren't comfortable with by someone calling them ridiculous.

It really doesn’t matter what she or anyone here on this thread thinks. What matters of what you think.
You make your decision based on what you think. You don’t have to justify it to anyone!

I wouldn't go. I don't have any health anxiety but have spent the last week working in a school seeing how it's ripped through in the last few days of term in a way we've not seen before. It's ruined so many families' Christmases. My family Christmas is my priority so I'll be leaving the house as few times as possible and taking the precautions I can when I do, to do all I can to preserve what's important to me. No hysteria, just a sensible approach.

She isn’t much of a friend is she. We are only doing essential things as we hope DH will be able to collect MIL who lives 200 miles away. So are minimising risk.Work is finished for us now. DS and his GF work up to Christmas Eve but it just has to happen.

Does your friend have much else going on in her life? Maybe she has only this to look forward to, not that it excuses her rudeness. It’s just a dinner, I haven’t been able to see my relatives as almost all of them live overseas in America and Hong Kong.

I'm 100% not going. I let them all know on group chat. It turns out one of the others isn't going. So there's just two of them now. I feel relieved tbh. Thanks all.