I just want to be in bed

[ThesecondLEM]

That's it really. Not necessarily sleeping, but laying in bed, alone, peace and quiet.

I work ft and cycle to work so I'm pretty tired but I'm literally counting the hours until bedtime.

It's Saturday night and I've just come to bed leaving Dp and dd downstairs.

Today is the first anniversary of my mum's death and I am obviously feeling very sad today but this is every day.

I'm 51 and feel 81 in terms of motivation and energy. I'm just overwhelmed by the world and everything going on.

I'm happiest in bed, happier still if my dog snuggled up with me. Then I'm quite content, in bed.

I feel just the same. Can't deal with much conversation past 8.30pm- and pretty much race to bed from then on. Only a couple of years ago I was never in bed before midnight. I'm sorry you've lost your mum

Me too. I've been in bed an hour and I'm same age.
Love my bed. But then I'm in pain (disabled) and get up early.
You sound down OP
It's been a tough year with lockdowns and also your mum died which I can't imagine is easy. I think you know that you probably ought get GP to check why you're tired all the time - at middle age so many things can start to go slightly awry that are easily fixable. Just start there...
you're not alone anyway
Love the doggo love as DDog sounds happy to abandon the others and get extra mumlove in bed!

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What a bitchy comment! And how needlessly spiteful and unpleasant to someone who has just posted that it is the anniversary of their mother's death.

I'm sorry life feels overwhelming at the moment, OP. Sometimes you just have to do what you need to to get by. Hope you get a break over Christmas.

Bless you @ThesecondLEM

You lost your mum so close to Christmas last year. You are bound to be a bit triggered at the moment.

I found the first anniversary absolutely exhausting (lost my mum in Sept 2020)

Listen to your body and rest. Be kind to yourself. Today was always going to be difficult and I imagine you've been mentally building up to it for a while.

Do reach out to your GP if it's something you want some support with. Grieving is very tiring.

I hear you, OP, but I'm only 42. 🤦
I've got physical and mental conditions which are pretty debilitating, but I'm only at peace for those few, short hours I manage to sleep.
I am a simulacrum of my former self: I used to have so much get up and go!

I'm in bed now, alone, in the dark, with space to just "be" . I do this most nights, it's bliss.

I am sorry about your mum. Xxx

It sounds like you're exhausted both physically and mentally. Your bed is your place of physical comfort and that's what your body needs right now.

Snuggle up and rest. It will do you good. You don't always need to have an actual illness to need to rest and recover sometimes.

@ThesecondLEM, I’m also 51 and have found that I get tireder, much sooner than I ever have before. I used to be a complete night owl, now I can be happily in bed by 9.30pm.

The last couple of years have been emotionally exhausting for so many people, without even taking in account bereavement. For many people too, physically exhausting with reduced leisure facilities and holidays, increased workload and childcare responsibilities, less healthcare and so on.

If you wavy to be in bed, just go! I might join you, in spirit.

Tough day for you. Nothing wrong with going to bed early, especially in winter. Do you sleep well? Sounds as if you get plenty of exercise, but perhaps a walk at the weekend, exercise for pleasure rather than cycling because you have to.

Hope you have some time off over Christmas and the New year so you can have some proper down time and really rest.

I'm so sorry about your mum OP, it must be a really difficult day for you today x

Just wanted to say I'm 34 and love going to bed an hour 'early' to just lay quietly in the dark chilling out, maybe looking at stuff on my phone or listening to a podcast on the headphones. I think it's good to have that time where you can just do you, chill, read a book or literally just lay and empty your mind before going to sleep x

Ah take a squeeze man

I like my bedroom, it's like a giant hug when I shut the door. But I don't share with anyone. Sometimes you just need that space.

Bed sounds like the perfect place, enjoy the peace and quiet.

Sorry for the loss of your mum. Do whatever you need to, including going to bed if you want.

Thanks everyone, you are right, this year has been so tough on reflection. What with mum passing after a really difficult time. I also left my job which had become horribly toxic and have started a new job which is so much better, so a positive move, I was in my last job for over 20 years and that is a loss too.

I an on ADs already for anxiety but I think I need to talk to someone. When though??

So I'm going to take it one day at a time and if I need to be in bed that's where I'm going to be for now. It's just a shame I can't take it to work with me